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Unplugging From Your Addiction to Email

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Do you wake up in the morning and bring your laptop into bed with you, or check it before you brush your teeth?

Do you check email while you're driving, even though you're four times as likely to have an accident when you do?

Are you answering email on your iPhone or BlackBerry when you walk between meetings, or on your way to the parking lot?

Do you keep answering while you're sitting in your car in your driveway or garage when you get home?

Do you bring your laptop into bed with you at night, and always make one final check before you turn out the lights?

In May, I posted a poll here asking readers about their experience in the workplace. One of the questions was about email.

More than 60 percent of you said you spend less than two waking hours a day completely disconnected from email. Twenty percent spend less than a half hour disconnected. Email has become our intravenous feeding tube.

Two weeks ago, I gave a talk at a Fortune 100 company about the value of focusing on one thing at a time and the attentional costs of constant interruptions. When I was done, an articulate and ingenuous young man who worked in finance came up to me.

"I believe everything you said," he said, "but I can't do it. If I get an email, I have to look at it."

"Have you considered just turning it off at certain times during the day?" I asked.

"I don't think I can," he replied. "As soon as I turn it off, I'd start obsessing about what I'm missing."

It isn't overload we're battling anymore, it's addiction -- to action, to information, to connection, but above all to instant gratification.

In the late 1960s, the psychologist Walter Mischel began conducting his famous "marshmallow" experiment. He placed a marshmallow in front of a succession of four-year-olds. Mischel told them they were free to eat the marshmallow simply by ringing a bell after he'd left the room. If they were able to wait until he returned, he told them they could have two marshmallows.

Seventy percent of the children gave up in less than a minute. Only thirty percent were able to wait 15 minutes.

Mischel termed marshmallows a "hot stimulus" - meaning highly seductive - not unlike the ping of an email, or a text.

We're pulled to anything that provides instant gratification, even when we know we'd get a bigger reward for delaying. We're also quick to take up any excuse to stop working on something that is difficult and requires high concentration.

What Mischel found is that the low delayers quickly burned down their limited reservoir of will and discipline by staring directly -- and longingly -- at the marshmallow. The high delayers found something else entirely to focus on. They never looked at the marshmallow.

Mischel came to call this skill "strategic allocation of attention." It's a capacity many of us have lost when it comes to the Pavlovian pull of email.

Years later, when Mischel redid the experiment with a new group of four-year-olds, he decided to teach the poor delayers the techniques of the high delayers. He gave them very simple ways to redirect their attention away from the marshmallow.

Kids who hadn't been able to wait more than a minute rapidly learned to hold out for a full 15 minutes.

We, too, can strategically train our attention. When it comes to email and the Internet, it's critical that we learn to do so. In an increasingly complex world, we need to give ourselves more time to think more reflectively, creatively, and deeply.

If you're truly tethered to your email, start small. Choose a specific time each day to turn off your email for a half hour, or an hour, and focus on something that requires your full attention. Then begin adding other times as your focus gets stronger.

Here's one way to start. Take back your lunch. I wrote about this movement last week, and you can find out more about it here: http://www.TakeBackYourLunch.com

At lunchtime, get up from computer step outside and leave your iPhone or your Blackberry behind.

Instead, use the time to quiet your mind, or to think through a difficult problem, or to truly connect with a friend or colleague.

You'll be building much needed renewal into your day, and you'll also be retraining your attention.

Take back your lunch is a first step in taking back your attention, which is key to taking back your life.

If you want to see how you're doing when it comes to managing your attention, or any other dimension of your energy, take our Energy Audit:


A version of this post appeared originally on HBR.org

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