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Tracey Cleantis, LMFT, the author of, the Publishers Weekly starred reviewed, The Next Happy: Let Go of The Life You Planned and Find a New Way Forward( Published by Hazelden).

Tracey Cleantis is a marriage and family therapist with private practices in Valencia and Pasadena, California. She has worked with hundreds of patients who have dealt with the loss of a dream, and through her online writing has built a national reputation as an accessible and trustworthy expert with a special expertise in loss and grief.

Her popular "Freudian Sip" blog on the Psychology Today website sought to make psychoanalytic thought easy to understand and accessible, one sip at a time." Tracey's highly-successful blog focuses on life on both sides of the couch, and frequently addresses the topic of unreachable dreams and how to let them go and get to your "Next Happy".

Tracey has published essays, fiction, and poetry in various publications, including the Sojourner and Mode Magazine and her interviews and advice have been featured in stories in Psychologies Magazine, Redbook, The New York Daily News, Yahoo News,, Forest and Bluff, Sheridan Road and on Fox News Boston.

Tracey lives in Pasadena, California with her boyfriend, Keith, and her dog Lily.

Entries by Tracey Cleantis

Royal Baby Not a Royal Pain Anymore

(0) Comments | Posted April 21, 2015 | 7:18 PM

Back when the world was expecting the Royal Heir of 2013, I was still in the midst of grieving over my own childlessness-not-by-choice. Around that time, I would approach each April bracing myself for another Mother's day without a child of my own, and I would bristle when...

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8 Things That Frozen and Idina Menzel Might Have to Teach You About Grief, Happiness and the Unexpected Value of Mispronunciation

(3) Comments | Posted March 9, 2015 | 2:00 PM

At the end of each chapter in my book, The Next Happy: Let Go of The Life You Planned and Find a New Way Forward, I have a section called Movie Rx. I prescribe films to illustrate the key concepts of each chapter, e.g. "Watch Silver Linings Playbook...

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Surviving Mars and Surviving Loss Are Not So Different

(0) Comments | Posted February 2, 2015 | 3:53 PM


Let me just start off by saying that I am decidedly NOT a science-fiction fan. Klingons and Trekkies and books and films involving planets, wormholes and warp speed travel leave me longing for a book about here and now reality (and if I...

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No More Whispering: Talking Openly About Infertility

(6) Comments | Posted September 13, 2013 | 1:17 PM


On Tuesday morning, when I came out of my eleventh hour of seeing patients, I looked at my phone, as I always do, to see if I had any patient calls or texts that needed a response. Instead, on the front...

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Royal Baby Watch Can be a Royal Pain for Those Struggling with Childlessness

(24) Comments | Posted July 25, 2013 | 11:03 AM

Have you ever been broken up with right before Valentine's Day, and all of a sudden, it feels like EVERYONE is in love? Of course, you are a smart cookie, and you rationally know it is not true, but it feels like everywhere you look, you see signs of happily...

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Angelina Jolie: Goddess, Amazon, Woman

(2) Comments | Posted May 16, 2013 | 12:55 PM

Much is made over the material girl's multitudes of metamorphosis. For those of you too young to remember, I speak of Madonna. And, yes, the Divine Ms. M most definitely goes down in the halls of fame in terms of best reinventions in the category of human/female/performer. However, for me,...

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Infertility: You Can't Always Get What You Want -- And That's Not All Bad

(146) Comments | Posted April 27, 2012 | 7:40 AM

I did everything in my power:

I went to acupuncturists three times a week.

We remodeled our chi thanks to Feng Shui and Chi Gong.

I sought out astrologers for the most auspicious dates for our IVF procedures and consulted assorted healers.

I prayed even though I...

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Infertility: 16 Things You Should Never Say To A Woman Who Is Childless But Not By Choice

(936) Comments | Posted April 25, 2012 | 12:49 PM

I don't know if Miss Manners, Martha Stewart or any other blond woman keen on handing out the rules of genteel and polite society has come out with a primer on things best not to say to women who have been pumped full of mind-altering hormones and endured an alphabet...

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Cinderella's Running Shoes

(6) Comments | Posted April 7, 2011 | 3:26 PM

My beloved New Balance had lost their groove, each step I took on the treadmill felt completely flat and uninspired. I no longer felt the bounce that made me feel like instead of being just little old me that I was Bo Derek running on the beach with my imaginary...

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