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Tristan Higgins
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Tristan Higgins, aka Butch Jaxon, is the butch lesbian blogger behind ButchOnTap. She has been a lesbian for her whole life, but she is a fledgling writer. She was raised in San Diego and lives there, and she is an accomplished lawyer. She loves to write, play any kind of sport or game and consume any kind of entertainment, and she is frequently found drinking lattes in a bookstore or discovering new beers at local microbreweries. You can visit Butch at her blog or on Facebook (be sure to "like" her!), and you can follow her on Twitter @ButchOnTap. To tell her what you think, email her at

Entries by Tristan Higgins

Exclusive! World Premiere of Sofia's Video, "Friendly Little Ghost"

(0) Comments | Posted November 14, 2014 | 8:25 PM

I got the chance to interview up and coming singer songwriter Sofia recently. If you don't know who she is, you're going to want to. Think kd lang meets John Mayer.

I will share the full interview next week, but I...

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The Lesbian Mastermind Behind The Dinah: An Interview with Mariah Hanson

(1) Comments | Posted October 13, 2014 | 2:05 AM

I had the opportunity to sit down and talk with Mariah Hanson who runs The Dinah each year in Palm Springs. As confirmation of her lifetime of success, Mariah will be honored by The Center in Palm Springs with its first ever "Legacy Award" to recognize...

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"Mom, What's a Lockdown Drill?"

(0) Comments | Posted October 10, 2014 | 2:35 PM

Something very disturbing happened today. My daughter, who is 11 and in 6th grade, participated in a lockdown drill at her school. I got an automated call from the school this morning to let me know that the drill would take place. I appreciated that call because it is the...

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Bringing Israel's Reality Home: 'We May Have to Hang Up If We Hear Sirens'

(0) Comments | Posted August 7, 2014 | 12:16 AM

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This one isn't funny. I don't even have any insight. But I have to share.

Everything I know about the Israeli-Palestinian conflict I have learned from researching on the...

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10 Being the Worst Pain You've Ever Experienced in Your Life...

(1) Comments | Posted July 17, 2014 | 12:27 PM

Sometimes I wonder if the pain is all in my head. If it really hurts or I just think it does. This is especially true whenever I find myself at a doctor talking about my "situation."

You know the question, "On a scale of 0 to 10, 0 being no...

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Uber Butch: An Interview with Lea DeLaria

(7) Comments | Posted July 8, 2014 | 4:06 PM

Note: This post contains adult language and graphic sexual references. Enjoy!

I love my job as a writer. I get to write about being a butch lesbian. I get to share that with people. And, sometimes I get to do really awesome stuff -- like sit down to talk with...

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A Note to Politicians: What Do You Believe in? What Are You for?

(0) Comments | Posted June 2, 2014 | 2:55 PM

I am tired of politicians, be they candidates or elected officials, who spend our time and money telling us what they are against.

Typical campaign ad: I am so and so and I will absolutely not do this... or that. Or this other thing.

Second typical ad: Hi again, I...

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Lessons From a Brush Fire: "What Do You Want Us to Grab, Honey?"

(1) Comments | Posted May 17, 2014 | 3:35 AM

"What do you want us to grab, honey?" my mom asks me on the phone.

I should know, right? I called my mom for help. I'm flying to Chicago as a big brush fire rages near my house and cats (kids are safe and sound elsewhere). Since my wife...

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Bejeweling Your Inner Lyon: An Interview With Lauren Bedford Russell

(0) Comments | Posted April 8, 2014 | 12:28 PM


Want to know more about the sexy beauty from The Real L Word? No? Maybe you think you know her already. I certainly didn't. As someone who never saw The Real L Word, I know less about Lauren Bedford Russell than many of...

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The Joy of the Game: Reflecting on Watching Baseball Instead of Playing

(0) Comments | Posted March 13, 2014 | 4:40 PM

I'm watching my son play baseball. That means on this particular afternoon, I am sitting alone along the backstop in my relatively comfortable camp chair. Today I am alone, though that's not the norm. The grandparents didn't make this game, and my wife is at home with my daughter. As...

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Review: How many BOTs Does ButchOnTap Award to Girltrash: All Night Long?

(0) Comments | Posted February 27, 2014 | 12:01 AM

I am going to review a new movie, but before I do, let me explain my new rating system. The BOT Rating System is based on the number of ButchOnTaps ("BOTs") that something is awarded (very scientific!).

1 BOT = PASS. I strongly suggest you pass. Hide your wife, hide...

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Wedding-y Wit and Wisdom: How to Propose to a Princess (Part II)

(0) Comments | Posted January 9, 2014 | 11:40 AM

In my last post, I shared that it was time to propose to the woman I love, that she is a princess, and that I wanted to propose in some epic (or at least memorable way). Where did we leave off? Oh, yea. I was explaining that I didn't have...

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Wedding-y Wit and Wisdom: How to Propose to a Princess (Part 1)

(0) Comments | Posted January 7, 2014 | 11:34 AM

I had given her a cute little promise ring (made from a coconut with a turtle on it -- in Hawaii; don't judge, because she loved it), but it was time to get the real one on her finger.

When she saw the little red box by the side of...

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What Does an Engaged Butch Call Herself, Bride? Umm..

(8) Comments | Posted December 17, 2013 | 9:31 AM

Getting married is fun. Oh, maybe I didn't mention it? This year, I fell in love, proposed and got married -- to the most amazing woman on the planet. Since she's a femme and I'm a butch, we have some interesting/funny experiences. (I've written about her a bit over at...

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Butch Voices

(2) Comments | Posted November 21, 2013 | 8:15 PM

You know that feeling when you've been sitting in the dark for a long time -- like, ages -- and you're just sitting there thinking, "Why am I sitting in the dark? Why don't I turn on a light? Light a candle? Fire up the smartphone? Something," but you can't...

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Lifting Myself

(8) Comments | Posted August 15, 2013 | 4:17 PM

I have been lifting as part of my fitness routine for over a year, but in the past six months I realized how much I like it and started toying with the idea of doing a competition. A competition would make my training realer and give me motivation -- you...

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Hunting for Valentines: An Interview With Kiyomi McCloskey

(6) Comments | Posted June 12, 2013 | 5:01 PM


I broke my interviewing cherry with Kiyomi McCloskey from Hunter Valentine. Now, don't worry. I already know that I am not a journalist (surprise!), nor do I write for Rolling Stone, so I decided to just talk to Kiyomi -- and, of...

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Lesbians: Pay Attention to Your Own Breasts Too!

(3) Comments | Posted June 5, 2013 | 5:13 PM

The other day, I had a really neat encounter. I was in San Jose and headed to Monterey for the weekend. Before hitting the road, I had to handle some odds and ends, like picking up stuff from the pharmacy and cleaning up my super-scruffy hawk. I saw a salon...

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Happy Mother's Day! How My 9-Year Old Daughter Is More Butch Than I Am

(4) Comments | Posted May 9, 2013 | 8:19 PM

On this Mother's day, I thought it appropriate to share a story about me and my daughter. Here goes!

About two months ago, I got two new piercings. I'd been wanting to have my double helix done. A friend suggested I go to a piercing parlor for several reasons: it's...

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12 Steps to Being Butch

(9) Comments | Posted May 6, 2013 | 10:58 PM

Butch's note: This blog post is meant to be tongue-in-cheek. Suffice it to say that I want to make you laugh. I do not mean to pass judgment on whoever you are, whatever your style may be (except for you over there in the ratty T-shirt and cargo shorts) or...

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