longmoo

I haven't watched Faux News Network since they championed the Iraq war & assured us that WMD's were just laying around the desert waiting to be UPS'd home. posted 07/06/2008 at 11:14:56

Best advice my father gave me over & was "keep your overhead low." With 3 rentals & my own mortgage, I'm surviving by his advice. posted 06/14/2008 at 09:01:40

My divorced sister says that the success of my 16 year relationship with another man is because we learned how to fight. The fights with her ex were horrible with name calling, past arguments revisited, yelling, threats of violence & retribution, using their babies as weapons.
The truth is more nuanced. True, we try to argue with a point & resolution in mind. We try to finish an argument & end it for good. We realize that some arguments are just stupid- born of too much drink, stress brought home from work, etc. Sometimes you just want to bitch at your spouse for a minute. It's part of life. Getoverit.
But other things have been equally important. We have learned to trust each other implicitly by surviving health scares together, thru grand Capital Gains & lost employment, family strife, moving Coast-to-Coast twice knowing & needing no one else.
We also took sex out of the argument list. 1) Everyone is responsible for their own orgasms. (2) Love & sex are two different things. Sometimes we make love, sometimes it is recreation, stress relief, or fun. Sometimes it is with someone else. Each of these is fine as long as you are operating within the agreements of your relationship & there is no lying or deceit. Sex doesn't end relationships. Lying & Deceit & Lost Trust do.
Most importantly, I know that my beloved wishes for my happiness & well-being EVEN AT THE EXPENSE OF HIS OWN. He knows the same posted 06/11/2008 at 12:46:02