The word "feminism" is thrown around quite loosely these days, especially among chart-topping pop stars. In an overly outspoken culture where one can express some pretty strong opinions in 140 characters or less -- all hiding behind the comfort of a computer or smart phone, mind you -- it seems there is no room for error anymore. Whenever one woman makes a "questionable" move, another woman quickly throws up her dukes -- looking for a fight, with some even calling it feminism.
Back in September, then 16-year-old singer Lorde called out Selena Gomez for her hit song, "Come & Get It."
"I love pop music on a sonic level. But I'm a feminist and the theme of her song ['Come & Get It'] is, 'When you're ready come and get it from me.' I'm sick of women being portrayed this way," Lorde said.
Gomez responded by acknowledging Lorde's musical abilities but questioning her feminist stance.
"I think she is super talented and I think it's awesome. But I think at the same time that feminism and that specific thing is very sensitive because in my opinion it's not feminism if you're tearing down another artist."
Then there's Miley Cyrus, who deemed her own phase of life to be feminism at it's greatest.
"I feel like I'm one of the biggest feminists in the world because I tell women to not be scared of anything," she claimed.
After a war of words between Miley and fellow musician Sinead O'Connor, Sinead wrote an open letter criticizing the 20-year-old for allowing herself "to be pimped" and behaving like a prostitute under the guise of feminism. Yikes.
"[You are] not in any way an empowerment of yourself or any other young women. And worse [than] that you are such an anti-female tool of the anti-female music industry. And I hope that you will wake up and understand that you in fact are a danger to women," Sinead wrote.
And most recently, there's British songstress Lily Allen -- who released her new single "Hard Out Here." While some women are praising her provocative music video and calling the song a "feminist anthem," it's difficult to ignore the obvious jab she takes at Miley Cyrus. It seems that for chart-topping pop stars, exchanging blows has become business as usual.
So in a world full of opinions, haters, and outspoken celebrities, what is feminism really about anyway?
1. Feminism Is About Fighting For Rights, Not Fighting Each Other
Feminism by definition means: the belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities. It's about equality and having the rights we deserve. Another definition is: the organized activity in support of women's rights and interests. Key word support. How can we gain support from men, if we are not supporting each other?
2. Feminism Is About Having What You Want In Life- Whatever That May Be
Feminism is about having the opportunity to be whatever you want to be -- whether that be a mother, a brain surgeon, or a twerk-happy pop star. Another key aspect is respecting one another's choices, even if you don't agree with them.
3. Feminism Is About Progression And Empowerment
Continuing to defy odds as a gender is a key point in feminism. However, the sad truth is, there are still a great number of women who lack self-worth, primarily because of their cultural and religious beliefs, or upbringing. But feminism is about loosing constraints, empowering each other, and encouraging one another.
So I don't know about you, but instead of the catty feuds, judgmental snide remarks, and mouthy interviews, I'd rather see pop stars fighting towards the common goal of true feminism instead of fighting each other.
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