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Vicki Larson
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Vicki Larson is a divorced co-parenting mom of two wonderful boys who happen to be taller than she is now so she’s a lot nicer to them. She’s a journalist; freelance writer; columnist for Mommy Tracked: Managing the Chaos of Modern Motherhood; contributor to “Knowing Pains: Women on Love, Sex and Work in Our 40s,” a fundraiser for breast cancer; and a chronicler for The Working Chronicles, a national project that explores what Americans think about work. Sometimes, she even writes something halfway intelligent on her own blog, the OMG Chronicles. Follow her on Twitter @OMGchronicles, and fan her (yeah, that's weird) on Facebook.

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Why Marriage Advice Just Doesn't Work

(15) Comments | Posted October 8, 2014 | 12:06 AM

Look at any website or magazine geared toward women and you'll most likely see all sorts of advice from "experts" -- everything from "9 Ways to Save Your Marriage" to "10 Marriage Rules You Should Break" to "21 Secrets to a Happy Marriage" -- to prevent a marriage from sliding...

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An Open Letter to the Sanfords About Divorce

(1) Comments | Posted September 18, 2014 | 9:16 AM

Dear Jenny and Mark Sanford:

I don't know you, but I'm a divorced mother who has also had to deal with infidelity in her marriage. Jenny, I know just how painful it is. Mark, what the hell were you thinking running off to Argentina to be with your mistress while...

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The Conversation All Would-Be Cheaters Should Have

(3) Comments | Posted August 22, 2014 | 12:27 AM

Women want sex and passion -- surprised?

If we are to believe a recent study by AshleyMadison.com, that's why married women say they cheat. They're not interested in ending their marriage, they're just looking to put some spark in their sex lives and, let's face it -- once...

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Is It Really OK to Deny Your Spouse Sex?

(4) Comments | Posted July 27, 2014 | 12:09 PM

The now infamous Spreadsheet Sex couple may have inspired jokes and anger, but they also remind us of where sex fits -- or doesn't -- into a marriage.

Some people believe it's essential, others not so much. Which raises a few questions: Do you owe your spouse sex?...

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George Clooney and the Myth of the Perpetual Bachelor

(6) Comments | Posted April 29, 2014 | 10:38 AM

So, People magazine's two-time Sexiest Man Alive George Clooney is evidently engaged. It shouldn't be such a big deal -- just another celeb tying the knot, right (well, except for broken hearts everywhere)?

But Clooney isn't just a celeb; he has represented an old-fashioned myth that persists even today --...

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Would You Rather Love an OS or a Real Person?

(0) Comments | Posted February 18, 2014 | 8:07 AM

Maybe you've bought into the fantasy of a soulmate -- a person who can give you everything you need and want. But you're also smart enough to know that your soulmate may not be perfect; you're willing to accept that he or she may be shorter than you imagined or...

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Should You Divorce Over Cosmetic Surgery?

(67) Comments | Posted November 13, 2013 | 8:36 AM

Honesty is essential in a relationship. But just how honest should you be?

That question is at the center of a rather curious legal suit that made the news last week. A Chinese man allegedly divorced his wife for giving birth to what he considers an ugly baby...

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Is Infidelity A Societal Problem?

(258) Comments | Posted September 17, 2013 | 11:15 PM

Anyone who has been unfaithful and then gone to couples therapy to "work on the marriage" -- assuming he or she hasn't already been given the boot -- knows that the therapist probably isn't going to take his or her side. You cheated, you're bad, end of discussion.

Yet it's...

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Why Is No One Paying Attention To Divorced Dads?

(130) Comments | Posted June 13, 2013 | 1:54 AM

We're coming up on Father's Day, and even though I'm not a fan of Hallmark holidays, the day will be nonetheless hard for me this year. My father passed away May 26, just a few weeks shy of his 89th birthday, so his death will be very fresh on the...

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Marriage: Is It Really Work?

(137) Comments | Posted May 14, 2013 | 4:18 PM

Not even beautiful people have it easy.

Just a few weeks ago, Gwyneth Paltrow -- People magazine's most beautiful woman in the world -- confessed that marriage is hard and it takes work.

"It's hard being married. You go through great times, you go through terrible...

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Why Men And Women Don't Have the Same Marriage

(1858) Comments | Posted April 25, 2013 | 2:24 AM

''I had wanted to get married," poet Jill Bialosky once wrote, "but I realized now that I had never wanted to be a wife.''

There's something about being a wife that causes some women to feel diminished -- "an asexual being who is long-suffering and exists only to...

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What's So Wrong With An Open Marriage?

(769) Comments | Posted April 17, 2013 | 1:09 AM

Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith have been in the headlines a lot in recent years, and not because of their movies. They're either on the verge of divorce or they have an open marriage -- and I'm not sure which horrifies people more.

I can...

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'Past Their Prime' Film Explores Struggles Of Geriatric Animals At Tiburon International Film Festival

(3) Comments | Posted April 9, 2013 | 7:41 PM

There are a few things Becca Friedman learned while filming her documentary on geriatric animals, but one resonated with her most -- it isn't any easier for animals to age than it is for humans.

It's not something most people think about.

"We're all very much alike when it comes...

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Should We Make Marriage Harder To Stop Divorce?

(240) Comments | Posted February 24, 2013 | 1:40 AM

Poor marriage! Many believe it's under assault, what with gays and lesbians wanting in and about 50 percent of heteros wanting out. So the Institute for American Values has been hosting symposiums, looking to get Hollywood to make pro-marriage movies, passing legislation to stop divorce, and making more...

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The Best Relationship To Have After Divorce

(818) Comments | Posted January 29, 2013 | 1:45 AM

"So, what are you and 'J' going to do?" a friend asked recently.

"J" is my boyfriend and we do a lot of things, some of which I'm much too discreet to discuss publicly. I needed clarification.

"What do you mean?"

"Are you ever going to get married or live...

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Are Middle-Aged Women Done With Men?

(2200) Comments | Posted January 5, 2013 | 12:20 AM

Not too long ago, I asked a friend how she's doing. After a long pause, she said, "I keep wondering if this is all there is."

A lot of us have that feeling.

She and I are both 50-something and like many 50-somethings, we are empty-nesters or about to be...

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What Does Commitment Mean In A Marriage?

(198) Comments | Posted December 21, 2012 | 6:25 PM

It seems that whenever anyone talks about divorce, the C word comes up -- commitment.
The problem with couples today, the typical comment goes, is that they just don't know what commitment means.

OK, so what does commitment in a marriage mean?

It isn't declaring, "I like this relationship...

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What Kids Think About Divorce

(185) Comments | Posted December 12, 2012 | 1:10 AM

When it comes to divorce, everyone is concerned about the kids. Not that everyone who divorces has kids, but we don't seem to have as much angst about child-free couples who divorce as we do about those who have kids -- especially young kids.

For all our studies...

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Should You Lose Your Job Over An Affair?

(236) Comments | Posted November 16, 2012 | 1:30 AM

When does your sex life become anyone else's business (other than, obviously, the person you're sleeping with)?

Apparently when you're a retired four-star general and the director of the CIA.

Many were shocked at David Petraeus' announcement last week that he was resigning because of an extramarital affair....

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Will Marriages Be a Casualty of Post-9/11 Conflicts, Too?

(43) Comments | Posted November 10, 2012 | 2:00 AM

You've been waiting for your husband to come home from serving in the military overseas.
You're not sure what to expect, but all your favorite women's magazines and websites, advice columnists and TV relationships experts are telling you that the fate of your marriage rests in your hands.

...
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