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10 Secrets Of Successful Memoir Writers

Posted: 02/16/2012 5:10 am

Love it or loathe it, the memoir is thought of by many readers and critics as the most popular and relevant book genre of our time. Depicting life's messiest moments, memoirs provoke strong feelings; just mention the M-word at a dinner party and watch the sparks fly. Now writing a memoir has become all the rage--whether written one blog post at a time, or offline, page by page. Unfortunately, many would-be memoirists stumble on the same writing hurdles: if only it wasn't so tough to begin, figure out a plot line, recreate conversations you had five months or five years ago, and keep it all interesting until arriving at "the end."

So, to demystify the process, let's forget for a moment that you're aiming to fill 200-plus pages. Refrain from comparing the aftermath of your divorce to that of Elizabeth Gilbert. And, wait before visualizing your baby picture splashed on a book cover or I-Pad screen. Start by thinking of your memoir as a lower-stakes hobby, like, say, furniture refinishing. If your memoir was a piece of furniture, it would be grandma's antique rocker. You've been saving that old piece in the attic so that one day you can restore it to its former glory. You've never restored anything before, but how hard can it be? You've even bought the tools on E-bay. Meanwhile, the rocker accumulates more dust; waiting for you to mean it when you say it: "Okay, today I do it."

If that doesn't work, here are ten secrets for getting started and finishing--gathered for The Complete Idiot's Guide to Writing a Memoir [Alpha, $15.95]. They come from some famous memoir writers and revered memoir teachers. Use their advice to write the true story only you can tell.

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"The scariest moment is always just before you start. After that, things can only get better," wrote Stephen King in his inspirational "On Writing, A Memoir of the Craft."

Here's a secret. That sense of dread King speaks of, the one that bubbles up as you stare at a blank page or screen is totally familiar to every writer, no matter if it's his first chapter, or, like King, book number fifty-something. The trick, writers soon learn, is to tell that icky feeling to go wait outside while you simply begin writing--putting one word after another just as you put one foot down and occasionally fell on your ass before getting that walking thing right. You should definitely not worry about the quality of what goes on the page, at least not yet. The second secret known to every successful writer is that all first drafts are terrible. They're supposed to be that way, so you can get past the warm-up stage to the better stuff--without giving up.
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Love it or loathe it, the memoir is thought of by many readers and critics as the most popular and relevant book genre of our time. Depicting life's messiest moments, memoirs provoke strong feelings; ...
Love it or loathe it, the memoir is thought of by many readers and critics as the most popular and relevant book genre of our time. Depicting life's messiest moments, memoirs provoke strong feelings; ...
 
 
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08:41 PM on 02/23/2012
The article's author tells us "First and foremost, don't deceive your reader" and warns us against exaggerating if we want our readers to stick with us. And then this: "For the past three decades, millions of self-help readers have defined the turning points in their lives through Gail Sheehy's landmark 1989 book, 'Passages.'"

'Millions' may not be exaggeration. 'Landmark' may be a matter of educated opinion. But rounding up from 23 (barely) to 30 definitely suggests authorial bias and dishonesty. Or possibly trouble with math.
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12:38 PM on 02/22/2012
Don't the most successful memoirs deal with the most relatable, and therefore universal topics? Think about it...birth, death, loss...loss of one's mind, child, home, and rebounding from failure. Who was Jeannette Walls before The Glass Castle? A gossip columnist with a hard childhood, not exactly unique or famous. Perhaps the real must have is GOOD WRITING. Your thoughts?
11:06 AM on 02/20/2012
I think to be published a memoir must have a bigger story or be written by a notable. If you aren't someone recognizable then you have to think in terms of creative nonfiction and cast your story in an unusual setting, or have a skill or ability or profession that creates interest beyond your own story or have a truely jaw dropping incident to relate.
08:59 PM on 02/17/2012
Oh, come on. No one has anything to say? There's normally at least ten comments if only to say the article wasn't worth reading. Me thinks someone is intimidated.
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08:50 PM on 02/16/2012
#11 Have something interesting to say.