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Vincent O'Keefe
Vincent O’Keefe is a writer and stay-at-home father with a Ph. D. in American literature. His writing has appeared in The New York Times "Motherlode," Time, The Shriver Report, and Brain, Child, among other venues. He has been featured at CNN Parents and is seeking an agent for a memoir about gender and parenting. Watch/read/listen to more of his work at, follow him at, or Like him at .

Entries by Vincent O'Keefe

What Erma Bombeck Taught Me About My Mother's Alzheimer's

(3) Comments | Posted April 24, 2015 | 7:49 PM

Entering the fog of Alzheimer's, I speak slowly into the phone: "Your granddaughter wants to take guitar lessons. Got any tips?"

My 83-year-old mother, who took lessons decades ago, cackles: "She should do what I did -- find the best-looking teacher she can!"

"Well, she's 13, so that's terrible...

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Giving Thanks for the Second Nature of First Responders

(0) Comments | Posted November 18, 2014 | 12:14 PM

You never know when you're about to be called a hero. For me, it happened at an indoor waterpark with my wife and two daughters.

Most of the day had been predictable: we slid, we splashed, we repeated. Late in the day, however, we were on the stairs in...

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For Daughters, Is Babysitting the First Step on the Mommy Track?

(0) Comments | Posted January 28, 2014 | 12:47 PM

Do you remember the first time you babysat? If you are a woman, chances are a vivid memory just popped into your head, replete with an anxious yet exhilarating feeling that accompanied your first venture into both childcare and entrepreneurship. If you are a man, chances are a blank slate...

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6 Homemade 'Apps' for Parents in the Digital Age

(0) Comments | Posted November 19, 2013 | 5:07 PM

Do your kids spend more time Photoshopping your pet than actually petting it? Do you have to remind them to maintain eye contact when visiting grandparents? Are they lost in their phones as we "speak"?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you may want to read Catherine...

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Losing House, Keeping Home

(0) Comments | Posted September 20, 2013 | 5:56 PM

It is a grim job. My siblings and I sift through the items my mother cannot take with her to her new "home" at the assisted-living facility. Divorced for 27 years, she lived independently into her early 80s, but the combination of her macular degeneration (which led to legal blindness)...

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Gender Traitor? Guess What This Dad Wants for Father's Day

(2) Comments | Posted June 7, 2013 | 9:45 AM

This stay-at-home dad is tired and wants a new dishwasher for Father's Day. There, I said it. Now let me explain.

I have been waiting patiently for our dishwasher to break down once and for all. But its death scene will not die. The machine still works on about...

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Dad vs. The Dog Lobby: See Who Won and Why

(7) Comments | Posted May 20, 2013 | 12:17 PM

Can we be honest? I know many people adore dogs, but I have mixed feelings. In fact, in tenth grade, I had to present a five-minute speech on a pet peeve for my Public Speaking class. I explained four reasons why I did not care for canines back then:


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A Stay-at-Home Dad's Thoughts on Sheryl Sandberg's Lean In

(12) Comments | Posted April 1, 2013 | 1:43 PM

Like Sheryl Sandberg, I was voted "Most Likely to Succeed" back in high school. Many years later, she became the COO of Facebook and I became a stay-at-home father (and part-time writer). Stuff happens. But, since I now have two tween daughters, I read her Lean In with them in...

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Got Gender Shock? How to Get Over The End of Men

(59) Comments | Posted September 17, 2012 | 2:55 PM

In The End of Men, three different working mothers use the same three words to assess the rise of women and the decline of men in our economic culture: "Get over it." In my favorite example, Sarah Beth Gettys responds to her husband's lament that his career wanes while hers...

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How a Naked Emperor Taught Me to Reject Wipe Warmers

(5) Comments | Posted March 6, 2012 | 12:00 PM

In honor of World Read Aloud Day on March 7, a question: What children's story from your early years do you remember most? My favorite was "The Emperor's New Clothes" by Hans Christian Andersen. I remember fondly my older sister reading the story to me aloud,...

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Far Trek: A Stay-at-Home Dad Responds to Dr. Spock

(9) Comments | Posted February 2, 2012 | 7:22 AM

Reading the 9th edition of Dr. Spock's Baby and Child Care has me time-traveling, and not just because it was originally published in 1945.  The baby care section catapulted me back to the year 2000, when I was entering stay-at-home parenthood and my anxiety over nonstop childcare dwarfed any post-Y2K...

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Reading Brings Healing

(3) Comments | Posted November 18, 2011 | 7:00 AM

Over at the Parentlode Book Club we've been discussing how to teach children not only to read, but to love to read. (You can read the prior installments here and here.) Most recently we looked specifically at boys, and Vincent O'Keefe, a book...

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