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Vivian Diller, Ph.D.
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Vivian Diller, Ph.D. is a psychologist, who works with individuals and couples in private practice in New York City. Prior to getting her doctorate she was a professional dancer and model, represented by Wilhelmina. She appeared in Glamour, Seventeen, national print ads and TV commercials. She interned at St. Lukes-Roosevelt Hospital and did post-doctoral training in psychoanalysis at NYU.

She has served as a media expert on NBC, ABC, CBS and CNN discussing women's health, beauty, aging and family issues. She consults with public relations firms, advertising agencies, cosmetic and healthcare companies to help them understand the psychology behind healthy aging. Her book, "Face It: What Women Really Feel As Their Looks Change" (2010), is a psychological guide to help women deal with the emotions brought on by their changing appearances. “Today” co-host Hoda Kotb called it "a smart book for smart women."

For more information, please visit www.VivianDiller.com.

Entries by Vivian Diller, Ph.D.

The Normalization of Cosmetic Surgery

(3) Comments | Posted October 29, 2014 | 10:33 AM

The widespread shock and condemnation of Renee Zellweger's "new face" would have you believe that no man or woman would ever fall victim to her fate. Meanwhile, over 11 million surgical and non-surgical cosmetic procedures were performed last year in the US alone. And,...

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Building a Case for Real Beauty

(6) Comments | Posted November 25, 2013 | 10:39 AM

Real beauty. It sounds like an oxymoron, but it is now a welcome message for many women. While the shift has been slowly building, we're currently witnessing an important sea change in how beauty is viewed in today's culture. One can almost map the evolution -- which I believe is...

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The Beauty Gap Is Closing: 7 Reasons Why

(57) Comments | Posted November 4, 2013 | 11:15 AM

You've heard of the generation gap and the gender gap, but have you heard of the beauty gap, a combination of the two?

Saying that women are overqualified to advise men about "aging gracefully" is an understatement. The path hasn't always been...

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'In The Key of Genius': In Tune with Happiness

(3) Comments | Posted October 19, 2013 | 2:51 PM

Click here to read an original op-ed from the TED speaker who inspired this post and watch the TEDTalk below.

The beautiful piano performance by Derek Paravicini "In The Key Of Genius" would be impressive even if he wasn't challenged by blindness and autism. But curiously,...

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Beauty Addiction: Could Mani-Pedi Anonymous Be Next?

(14) Comments | Posted October 15, 2013 | 11:12 AM

Do you find that having someone massage your feet and polish your nails soothes your anxiety? Do you get uneasy when your hair stylist is on vacation or can't fit you in for monthly highlighting or coloring? If you miss your regular waxing appointment -- for your legs, arms, eyebrows...

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Menopause: What Do Men Have To Do With It?

(61) Comments | Posted September 24, 2013 | 11:31 AM

Many women are bewildered by menopause. Even scientists struggle to explain its very existence in human females. You see, women (along with short-finned and killer whales) are among the small handful of species unable to reproduce until the end of life. It wasn't always that way -- menopause evolved over...

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Beauty Ambivalence: Why We Take Sides

(48) Comments | Posted September 4, 2013 | 11:55 AM

I've never liked the saying (not to mention the sentiment) "you can't be too rich or too thin." But now, "you can't be too beautiful" is under fire, too. When it comes to women and their looks, it seems we just can't win.

The recent...

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7 Tips to Create a Profile Photo: There's More Than Meets the Eye

(10) Comments | Posted August 12, 2013 | 7:33 PM

How well does your online profile express who you truly are? For millions of people today, this is not an unimportant question since the results can strongly impact their future.

For years, patients have come to therapy seeking guidance about their relationships. "Why can't I meet someone?"...

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Turning a Midlife Crisis Into an Opportunity: Part II

(28) Comments | Posted August 1, 2013 | 2:03 PM

A true midlife crisis hits when overwhelming anxiety about aging combines with a person's biological and psychological changes. While this confluence of events wreaks havoc for some, it need not lead to an emotional meltdown for all.

In a recent article on The Huffington Post, "The 'New'...

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Menopause in the Media: It's About Time!

(18) Comments | Posted July 16, 2013 | 11:23 AM

Isn't it somehow fitting that the director of Desperately Seeking Susan and the very first episode of Sex In The City has now done a film about menopause called The Hot Flashes? Yes, we all grow up, even those sassy 30-somethings who forever changed...

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The 'New' Midlife Crisis -- and How to Know It's Coming

(54) Comments | Posted July 2, 2013 | 6:55 PM

By now, most of us have gotten used to Michelle Obama's new hairdo, but when she first appeared in bangs, it threw the public into a media frenzy.

On one talk show, she explained, "This is my midlife crisis, the bangs! I couldn't get a sports car....

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Why Do We Condone Cruel Coaches?

(34) Comments | Posted June 5, 2013 | 3:44 PM

I was deeply disappointed to hear about the abusive coaching tactics allegedly used by Julie Hermann, the recently-appointed Athletic Director at Rutgers. Having just applauded the school's bold move hiring a woman for the position (there are only two other females in similar roles), I had...

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Can Women Bring Civility to Our Playing Fields?

(100) Comments | Posted May 27, 2013 | 10:53 PM

The bold move of hiring Julie Hermann as the new athletic director of Rutgers University signaled an important recognition in the sports world: not only can women do a 'man's job', but a female touch may be just what that world needs.

My question is,...

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Underneath the Surface of 'Looks Aren't Everything'

(41) Comments | Posted May 10, 2013 | 12:50 AM

Click here to read an original op-ed from the TED speaker who inspired this post and watch the TEDTalk below.

TEDTalks bring to mind creative people presenting innovative ideas and imaginative inventions. It isn't the forum you expect to hear a model suggest we not begrudge...

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Media Moms: Are They Bad for Our Health?

(17) Comments | Posted April 21, 2013 | 4:22 PM

This obsession with celebrities and their journey into motherhood baffles me.

From the first signs of baby bumps ("is she or isn't she?") to the days after delivery ("is she too fat or too thin?"), these women are paraded all over the media as if they were the first...

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Teased About Your Looks? Bullying That Goes Under the Radar

(5) Comments | Posted April 8, 2013 | 1:16 PM

Ask people what they remember most about middle school and it may very well be something to do with having been teased -- or as we now say, bullied. Often, it's the first time they were made painfully aware of their religion, race or lack of athletic prowess. More likely,...

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The Gender Hair Gap

(16) Comments | Posted March 28, 2013 | 4:37 PM

When Demi Moore famously shaved her head for the 1997 film G.I. Joe, many admired her courage. More recently, Charlize Theron shaved her head for the upcoming movie Mad Max, and reactions were similar. "With that face, " blogs buzzed, "it's hard not...

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10 Tips to Ease Performance Anxiety

(31) Comments | Posted March 23, 2013 | 11:09 AM

Most people can avoid the kind of scrutiny that pro golfer Charlie Beljan recently endured when his panic attack was caught on national television. But you may be among the millions who privately struggle with the jitters before speaking in public.

Does your face redden, your...

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'Un-Whining' in 5 Steps: Making Complaints Work For You!

(12) Comments | Posted March 13, 2013 | 8:51 AM

"It's tough getting old!" is a familiar refrain among the Forever Young generation. "What's the world coming to?" is another on the list of growing concerns as we age.

Some of us worry about our future -- healthcare, social security and dementia. Others focus on larger issues...

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Exercise Your Body and Mind: Can We Avoid a Looming Health Crisis?

(4) Comments | Posted February 20, 2013 | 2:56 PM

We have heard that playing Scrabble and doing crossword puzzles may help keep our minds sharp as we age. Now, new research suggests that if we can find a way to play these games while walking on a treadmill, we may stay sharper even longer.

We are all eager...

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