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Aging in Hollywood: The Golden Years at the Golden Globes

Posted: 01/19/11 08:52 AM ET

While we may be only mildly interested in the films, TV shows and talent honored during the Golden Globes (and the countless other award ceremonies), many of us can't resist the after- buzz. Take the best- and worst-dressed lists, which get hundreds of comments on The Huffington Post alone. Chatter about gowns, jewels and hairstyles is tweeted and talked about around the world even before the last award is handed out, with more of the same online, on air and in magazines in the days that follow. Did Hendricks wear one too many ruffle? Did we like Bullock's bangs? Berry's bustier? Superficial fluff, but it's the kind of gossip we love to hate.

My eye caught something about the 2011 Globes that goes slightly underneath the surface and that I haven't seen discussed, written or blogged about as of yet. Perhaps it's the psychologist in me, or my research on beauty in contemporary culture, but I thought our "aging" celebrities looked pretty darn great -- perhaps better than ever -- as they presented themselves and were represented this year. And it seemed to have less to do with which stylist they used or who dressed them and more with the possibility that Hollywood boomers are finally getting this aging thing right.

One actress who said it all was 52-year-old, poised and gracious Annette Bening, awarded Best Actress in a Comedy or Musical for "The Kids Are All Right." Not only did she look great as she received her well-deserved trophy, but she accepted it with the kind of thoughtfulness and generosity that made her appear even more appealing. She effusively praised her co-star, Julianne Moore, a beautiful boomer herself, and then thanked her co-star at home, the 1962 Golden Globe "star-of-the-future," Warren Beatty. Then there was Melissa Leo, showing spunk and spirit at age 50 as she accepted the award for Best Supporting Actress for "The Fighter." She endearingly shared her initial "uh-oh, I'm so old" feelings at being asked to play the mother of 39-year-old actor Mark Wahlberg. But she acknowledged how fortunate she felt having been cast for the award-winning role, appearing as feisty, though far more attractive, than the character she portrayed in the film.

There were a number of other female actors receiving awards for having the courage to portray mid-lifers on screen -- Jane Lynch, age 50, for the deliciously evil Sue Sylvester in "Glee," and Laura Linney, age 46, for her role as a cancer victim in "The Big C." And a couple of more seasoned actors were asked to present awards at the ceremony. Wasn't the proud, mature Tilda Swinton a vision in white? And didn't Jane Fonda and Helen Mirren look stunning? Mirren, the 65-year-old English actress, paused onstage to gaze at her audience and told them how gorgeous they all were, as if handing down the mantel of beauty to the next generation. Meanwhile she was as elegant as ever.

And what about those men? They were showing some graceful aging, too. Colin Firth, for example, expressed gratitude for having the opportunity to play a couple of great roles at his age. Last year he was nominated for playing an anguished, aging professor in "A Single Man," and this year took home the Globe for "The King's Speech." In his self-deprecating style, he quipped that the award may help him avoid a midlife purchase of a Harley Davidson and then acknowledged deep admiration for his co-star, the even older Geoffrey Rush, who looked quite dapper himself in that hat. Add the other talented actors who were honored, like Buscemi, Giamatti, De Niro and Pacino, and I'd say we had a great-looking group of boomers on stage this year.

Surely there is no limit to the time, money and effort these celebrities can put toward looking their best. It's their business to look great. Our media culture demands that of them. They are dressed and made up by top stylists, work out with expert trainers, and get botoxed and lasered by the best dermatologists and surgeons. And no doubt those procedures are getting better and more finely tuned. But this is my point: I can't remember an awards ceremony where I didn't gasp at a former beautiful face destroyed by over indulgence in plastic surgery. Not once this time did I cringe, "Those new lips! Those frozen faces!" These actors and actresses looked, well, refreshingly "real." As I wrote here in an earlier post, "Real Is Really In," perhaps Hollywood is finally getting it right. These actors looked less desperate to appear years younger than their age. Instead they looked great for their age.

Closing with Michael Douglas presenting the Best Motion Picture (Drama) award reinforced this theme for me. Showing obvious appreciation for being healthy enough to be present at all after his battle with throat cancer, Douglas said, "There's got to be an easier way to get a standing ovation." With clear emotion, the audience stood on its feet, seeming to celebrate life, longevity and some of the more meaningful values typically lost in the glitz and glamour of Hollywood.

Maybe, just maybe, it's not just the kids who are all right. Does anyone else feel optimistic about the changes -- or, at least less radical ones -- seen on the faces of our aging screen idols? I do, even if the upcoming Oscar telecast is moving from last year's seasoned hosts, Steve Martin and Alec Baldwin, to this year's, James Franco and Anne Hathaway, in order to reach a "younger" demographic. Experience may connote loss of youth, but it need not mean loss of beauty. If nothing else, the 2011 Globes ceremony was a great reminder that beauty and class come in all ages.

I'm interested in hearing what you think about actors reaching their Golden Years at the Golden Globes. Continue the conversation by "fanning" me here, following me on Facebook (at facebook.com/Readfaceit) and on Twitter.

Vivian Diller, Ph.D. is a psychologist in private practice in New York City. She has written articles on beauty, aging, media, models and dancers. She serves as a consultant to companies promoting health, beauty and cosmetic products. "Face It: What Women Really Feel As Their Looks Change" (2010), written with Jill Muir-Sukenick, Ph.D. and edited by Michele Willens, is a psychological guide to help women deal with the emotions brought on by their changing appearances. For more information, please visit www.VivianDiller.com

 
 
 

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While we may be only mildly interested in the films, TV shows and talent honored during the Golden Globes (and the countless other award ceremonies), many of us can't resist the after- buzz. Take the ...
While we may be only mildly interested in the films, TV shows and talent honored during the Golden Globes (and the countless other award ceremonies), many of us can't resist the after- buzz. Take the ...
 
 
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Donna Henes
Urban shaman. ceremonialist and ritual expert
03:45 PM on 01/23/2011
Our emotional maturity and depth of character make women in our middle years extraordinarily and vitally attractive. We are substantial and robust, heady with the flavor of all that we have seen and done so far. We are pungent with profound experience, with pain and loss, exploration and transformation, glory and joy. The myriad lessons learned from lives intensely lived are reflected in our palate, which has become sophisticated, subtle, firm, and complex. Like fine wine and good cheese, women ripen and improve with age. Our essence becomes stronger, clearer, and infinitely more powerful. What could be more beautiful and sexy?
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Vivian Diller, Ph.D.
Psychologist and author of "Face It: What Women Re
04:41 PM on 01/23/2011
Donna, attractiveness so beautifully defined and described. I would love to quote you one day in a talk I give about aging gracefully, if that's okay with you (with one correction -- adding "of" between "The myriad" and "lessons," right?). Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment.
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pcplz
Children, children....think before you speak!!
07:24 PM on 01/22/2011
Best money can buy!!
04:40 PM on 01/22/2011
I'm sorry but Jane Fonda and Michael Douglas have both had plastic surgery. Fonda admits to it publicly without apology which I can respect. My question is how many others, that you have mentioned, have under gone procedures? I'm sure quite a few. Depends on whether you categorize fillers or special skin treatments as aging gracefully. With the amount of money they have they are able to commit to skin regime the commoner cannot and will never subscribe to. I agree we need more role models who look at a wrinkle with respect and dignity. But I seriously doubt the examples given in Hollywood should suffice.
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cityprole
old,sly, crafty,arty, leftie
06:52 PM on 01/22/2011
The point was that all these people do not have frozen-in-place, expressionless, unlined faces..even cosmetic surgery merely enhances, if done well..
All these actors were in awarded roles where they played their own ages, or close to it..I agree that it might be cause for quiet celebration, but also think it's the thin edge of the wedge..just like it's past time for women to not be assumed to be perfectly stick-thin to be appreciated, so the boomers, who will soon outnumber all other age groups, have begun to come into their own.
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Vivian Diller, Ph.D.
Psychologist and author of "Face It: What Women Re
10:45 PM on 01/22/2011
If you noticed, I didn't focus this piece on whether any particular actor or actress looked great because they had, or hadn't had, 'work' done. I didn't want this piece to be about that. I figure there is enough speculation about that elsewhere. Instead, I wanted to point toward a trend I believe is beginning to catch on among Baby Boomers, especially those whose lives are watched on screen. It's about looking the best you can for your own age.

In any case, I don't really feel it's my place to judge how people go about making their cosmetic choices. People make them based on their own personal needs and everyone's are different. It's that people in the public eye are making choices that are more appealing and more 'real' looking and if that requires fame and fortune, so be it. It sure is better than watching celebrities spend their money in ways that ultimately destroy their faces and careers.
03:22 PM on 01/22/2011
There's an interesting trend happening.... It seems a majority of older women (55+) in Hollywood favor aging natural, whereas the younger ones (some as young as 22 -- HEIDI MONTAG) are all about cosmetic surgery. I think it has to do with the whole coming-of-age thing. Older women who came of age during the 1960's and 1970's when feminism was at it's peak understand how petty and unimportant things like vanity and beauty are. Young people don't. And I say that as a young person. I'm all for women aging naturally.
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Vivian Diller, Ph.D.
Psychologist and author of "Face It: What Women Re
03:54 PM on 01/22/2011
"It seems a majority of older women (55+) in Hollywood favor aging natural, whereas the younger ones (some as young as 22 -- HEIDI MONTAG) are all about cosmetic surgery."

Actually, I see it a little bit differently, but I think you are on to something about a new trend for 55+. To me, I see Hollywood women in their 50s having benefited from the mistakes made by those now in their 60s and 70s. I don't believe it had that much to do with these women being products of the feminist movement. Feminists (including actors who came of age during that time) have often said that this beauty/youth craze created many conflicting feelings for them --to do surgery or not, to care or not to care. I think some of them went the surgical route, but others recognized there is a better way. Joan Rivers and even Jane Fonda have the faces that women who are now in their 50s have learned from. Let's hope that as the 20something generation reach their 40s and 50s, they will have better role models already in place.

By the way, I view plastic surgery that is done in the hopes of appearing more beautiful (the Montag variety) as a different issue than anti-aging procedures. That is a whole other problem --the search for perfection --that I didn't cover in this piece, but will in a future post. Thanks for your interesting thoughts.
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Halsey
"There is a price to pay for speaking the truth. T
03:24 PM on 01/21/2011
PART TWO:
In my dream world we admire actors for their talent. In my dreamland, we don't even CARE what they look like if the performance is great. Mirren is fantastic. If she's had anything done, it was done well with subtlety (sp?). I don't mind that Hathaway and Franco are hosting UNLESS they suck. It shouldn't be about their youth and beauty, but how WELL they deliver.
I was very very pretty, looked a good 10 years younger than I was (gene pool). Cancer and its treatment absolutely aged me that 10 years and maybe then some. Overnight I realized how vain I was. The mirror became the enemy, not an admirer. My next stupid dream is to try to turn that rapid aging into something positive. I'm far from successful. But must not compare myself to Halle or Natalie or Annette. I've rambled stream of consciousness b.s. but it is a short bit of therapy for me. Ergo, thank you for this article. I'll fan you, but I don't twitter; my little rebellion :-)
Namaste
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Vivian Diller, Ph.D.
Psychologist and author of "Face It: What Women Re
04:18 PM on 01/21/2011
No need for twitter. Doesn't suit us all, But I would love to hear more of what you have to say (stream of conscious is just fine), so keep your comments on these posts coming.

I agree, it would be great for talent, not age, to be used as the barometer for which actors and actresses are awarded and admired. This Golden Globes seemed to be more about that than other ceremonies in the past. Stay tuned to the Oscars and let's see if this trend continues.
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zoiebear
10:36 AM on 01/21/2011
Annette Bening looks like she forgot to do her hair or take off her glasses before she left the house!
Hookedonfashion
You can't judge a book by its cover, or its name.
06:39 PM on 01/22/2011
I agree, but I still love her anyway.
06:27 AM on 01/21/2011
Academy award winners are not always the most beautiful women. Unfortunately, they don't bring in lots of money at the box office, unless you consider when they are released for tv and video, and probably make the most over TIME. If only we had more time on our side perhaps are perception of age wouldn't be viewed as ugliness.
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Vivian Diller, Ph.D.
Psychologist and author of "Face It: What Women Re
06:52 AM on 01/21/2011
"If only we had more time on our side perhaps our perception of age wouldn't be viewed as ugliness."

Men and women are living longer lives than ever before. If these actors and actresses keep looking vital and appealing well into their70s, 80s and 90s (instead of disappearing from the screen, letting themselves go or messing their faces with too much plastic surgery), they just may change the perception aging. That was the point of this piece. Thanks for your comment.
12:39 AM on 01/21/2011
Mirren looked great, Fonda peculiarly looked over-fixed, and I agree, it's tiresome to view the parade of eternally young women in Hollywood, and all the cultural absurdity caused by the images of perfection so many women try to attain. Kudos to all the 'older' women looking great.

Just one bone to pick: boomers aren't 50-year olds. The baby boom occurred after the soliders came home from WWII, and that makes them at least 60 years old, Ms.Benning's parents were not having a welcome home toss.
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Vivian Diller, Ph.D.
Psychologist and author of "Face It: What Women Re
06:59 AM on 01/21/2011
I may have stretched how I used the 'Boomer' category, but if you notice, I was interchanging the words midlifers and Boomers throughout the article. Are you sure people born in the early 1960s aren't considered baby boomers? Thanks for your comment and I'll check that out. I always welcome corrections.
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traceymarie
the President is black, deal with it
08:44 AM on 01/21/2011
up to 1964 births are considered boomers.
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MsNancyMitford
01:44 PM on 02/02/2011
You were correct. The outer bourough was incorrect.
12:20 AM on 01/21/2011
What does "age gracefully" mean?
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Vivian Diller, Ph.D.
Psychologist and author of "Face It: What Women Re
07:06 AM on 01/21/2011
What does "age gracefully­" mean?

I see it as taking good care of yourself as you age while letting aspects of your youth go. It's about redefining what it means to be 40, 50, 60 and beyond, instead of desperately trying to hold onto who you once were. It's being vital, attractive and the best you can be "for" your age, not for someone younger.. When men and women do that, they can gracefully move onto the next stage of their lives. Does that definition work? What's yours?
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traceymarie
the President is black, deal with it
08:46 AM on 01/21/2011
so you believe someone who has botox or fillers is what.....not graceful not moving on? Extremely judgemental and authoritarion of you to suggest someone would fail to progress or move on because they want to do it with botox or surgery.
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DarkTruths
Jesus was a liberal. Why do you hate Jesus?
07:28 PM on 01/20/2011
There are so many examples from Bening and Moore to Meryl Streep, and even older ones from Dame Judi Dench to Ellen Burstyn (on the men's side, DeNiro and Beatty are prime examples) that are aging very gracefully. And "grace" is the key word here...they possess an air of professionalism, sophistication, poise, and dedication to craft that is hard to find in the young "stars" that have followed. As the internet and trash-at-all-costs entities like TMZ and the gossip rags show more and more of the private lives of these newer actors, they become less mythical and much less interesting. Does anyone know what clubs Streep and Benning went to last? I rest my case.
GraceNotes
We live for books.
01:50 PM on 01/20/2011
I too am glad to see the natural aging process show up in Hollywood. I am glad to see the women especially get good projects because that usually translates into more movies I want to see.
I wonder how much this new look has to do with HDTV, as we can now see, especially in sunlight, more detail in faces.
I recently read of an actress who gave up the Botox injections because she realized her job is to make facial expressions.
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Vivian Diller, Ph.D.
Psychologist and author of "Face It: What Women Re
06:55 PM on 01/20/2011
HDTV is forcing actors to tolerate true close ups of their real selves. They can't hide. If anything, I would have thought that HDTV would lead to even more anti-aging efforts and surgical procedures, but I think the trend is going away from dramatic changes and more toward healthier, (well cared for) faces and bodies that look real.
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kiksadi50
01:43 PM on 01/20/2011
I agree with most of what you said,except for Fonda.After yrs. of touring in The Vagina Monologues which is all about celebrating women for who they are not what they look like or represent,she went and did it again.She had several plastic surgery procedures including a face lift,neck & eye work.Then she writes a big on growing old gracefully.Now Betty White is growing old gracefully, & has an incredable spirit.Plus she is obviously having a blast at 89.I love Fonda,she is an icon.But come on Jane.You obviously are enjoying life,still working,doin humanitarian acts,& are healthy.It's ok to look your age when you are close to 70.It would inspire women who can't afford plastic surgery to feel ok about how they look.
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traceymarie
the President is black, deal with it
02:27 PM on 01/20/2011
Poor people should be a basis for not having surgery? Growing old gracefully does not only mean wrinkles, it means vitality, living life to your upmost, doing good in the world. What is wrong with men/woman making their outside look like they feel inside. To much judgement, and people are responsible to fell ok about their looks not others.
10:26 PM on 01/20/2011
It's not about poor people....it's about being comfortable and graceful about aging on the outside. There's plenty wrong with plastic surgery....for starters surgery is dangerous and should not be taken lightly. The people I trust the most in my life have not had plastic surgery......there's something 'plastic' about people who have had plastic surgery.
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Vivian Diller, Ph.D.
Psychologist and author of "Face It: What Women Re
03:43 PM on 01/20/2011
What you write rings true, although as I said to another blogger who had a similar reaction to Fonda, my sympathy goes to an aging actress whose face is scrutinized by millions of people. Betty White would surely have been mentioned by me in this piece, had she been at the Globes. But, I think their issues are different. I don't believe White's self esteem as an actor was ever really based on seeing herself as a beauty queen, right? Different experience growing older in public, as Fonda did, seeing your career as reliant on your youthful looks. Tough choices for an actress like Fonda. I know she struggled with this issue for years. She seemed to have come to terms with her choices, which is why I mentioned her.
11:38 AM on 01/20/2011
Personally, I thought Bening looked pretty bad -- her "I don't care" look seemed to signify that she indeed didn't care...as if she'd given up on being attractive or fetching (which, I believe, she could still be). But am in agreement on the others mentioned in the piece. Botox and injections have created some strange-looking creatures ...better to see a lovely face with a few lines.
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catcancook
Going Forward 2013-2016
10:43 AM on 01/20/2011
I only watched part of it but did not realize until you pointed out, that so many of the winners were not young--in age maybe but very young at heart! Could it have anything to do with the fact that the voters are Foreign (Hollywood Foreign Press)? We all know that this youth-thing a US/Hollywood preoccupation but those overseas view age differently, especially in women.

Not surprised that the Oscars chose young stars over comedians to host the show. They should have chosen someone like Jane Lynch because she is so naturally funny and isn't it suppose to be entertaining?
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Vivian Diller, Ph.D.
Psychologist and author of "Face It: What Women Re
03:34 PM on 01/20/2011
I have the feeling this shift in attitude toward aging is not just coming from the Hollywood Foreign Press. To me it was not only the older ages of the awarded actors, but how these more seasoned stars seemed to be handling their age. And that change in attitude shouldn't be affected by having younger hosts at the Oscars. At least I hope not!
10:35 AM on 01/20/2011
The weird thing about Hollywood, is they get these ideas in their heads with no proof and then they are set in stone...

Gay TV or movies will not be accepted. (Well Will and Grace, Modern Family, and Brokeback Mountain would seem to disprove that, but it is still set in stone)

Older actors and actresses won't bring in an audience... (Really? Because Desperate Housewives, Brothers and Sisters, all the Law and Orders, CSI etc... would seem to disprove that)

Minorities won't bring in ratings...(Do we even need to look any further than the Cosby show, Will Smith, Dreamgirls)? And yet that is still set in stone.

What we need is for somebody to fire all the Hollywood exects, or send them off to whatever island delusional cocaine addicts go to, and hire some people with actual real world experience. Maybe you'd stop seeing such a drop in ticketsale numbers.