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Watch the Throne

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You owe it to yourself to live an extraordinary life. At nights, your eyelids flutter open like curtains in a hotel room. You're there, but no one is home. There's a view of all the things you were meant to have laying before you. Behind the glass and beyond your reach. On any given Monday morning, you will sit at your desk as the fire in your belly threatens to engulf you. An all consuming ambition. To be someone and somewhere else. Anywhere. As long as its bigger. As long as you are better. As long as you are someone that everyone else wants to be. You will watch the clock. And you will wait for anything to happen.

So you build your new life the way that unseen hands built the pyramids. Piece-by-precarious-domino-piece. Waiting for the day that your future cascades triumphantly before you. Waiting for your window to open. Threatening to kick the door-in. There are those who doubt you. You might even be one of them. That's fine, I suppose. There are worse fates in life. After all, you could be perpetually ignored by history and everyone who isn't your mother. And No. We can't have that, now can we?

It pretty much comes down to this: We tell 100 lies a day. Most of them before noon. and 99 of them to ourselves. If you insist on acknowledging one truth in life, realize that you will never be who you were meant to be if you just wait for it to happen. You owe it to yourself to live an extraordinary life. Define that as you must, but let that be the one promise that you never break. Do more than watch the throne. Walk towards it. Seize the crown from the aged & heavy head it rests upon. Turn the page on the old you, and write what you've always known has been written for you. Because. No one else will do it for you.

Field Notes:

So. It's fair to concede that the Fall is here. We still have a few weeks before the over coats (and regrettable bubble goose jackets that will render the uncreative among us into live action versions of the Stay Puft Marshmellow Man) emerge. Until then, layering will be the life-blood of your wardrobe. On this brisk afternoon, I opted for a slim double breasted jacket with and scarf. There's nothing particularly earth shattering about the individual elements, but I think you'll find that one can appear striking when the right colors are subtly put together. Those of us who aren't opposed to making bold statements can rock accent-pieces like a red umbrella or canary-toned brief case. The point is to try not to overdo it. Particularly if you're new at this sort of thing. Most of us still have offices to report to, and can't really go off the deep end stylistically if we'd still like to be taken seriously. Self-Expression is great for those who are secure, but Costume is for adolescents still trying to find their way around the closet. When you give people a reason to turn their heads in your direction, make sure it isn't for the wrong reasons.

Credits:
Photography - 12Rnd
+ Boots: Gaziano & Girling
+ Pants: Mabitex
+ Case: Pratesi

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