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Chick-fil-A and the Standard of Love

Posted: 08/08/2012 4:01 pm

When Natalie Maines of the Dixie Chicks criticized President Bush during a concert in London in 2003, the response was fast, furious and nasty. Maines announced from stage that she was "ashamed" that Bush was from her native Texas. She and her bandmates, Emily Robison and Martie Maguire, were quickly blacklisted from country music stations, their CDs were publicly destroyed and their lives threatened. Despite subsequent successes, their careers have never really recovered.

I thought about this recently as I watched with great interest the unfolding of the Chick-fil-A controversy. Both incidents have to do, on some level, with "free speech" -- its power, its purpose and its limits. The Dixie Chicks case was interesting because as an American, Natalie Maines could express her views just like any other citizen. But not on foreign soil. Historically, an American's freedom to speak critically of America ends at the borders. Still, I marveled at the orchestrated efforts to silence her. There were those who attempted aggressively to deny her the right as an American citizen to criticize Bush and the war in Iraq. The message from her largely Christian and conservative fan base was clear: Shut up and sing, or face the consequences.

Many of these same people stood in line for hours last week to get a chicken sandwich in support of Dan Cathy's "free speech." Cathy, the COO of Chick-fil-A, had come clean about his and his company's opposition to same-sex marriage. "Guilty as charged" he said. Speaking as a Christian for a Christian company, Cathy asserted, "I think we are inviting God's judgment on our nation when we shake our fist at Him and say 'we know better than you as to what constitutes a marriage' and I pray God's mercy on our generation that has such a prideful, arrogant attitude to think that we have the audacity to define what marriage is about."

Millions of people agreed with him. The statement became an instant flash point in the "culture wars," and when former Arkansas governor Mike Huckabee declared "Chik-fil-A Appreciation Day," the line in the sand of American social values was never clearer.

Of the many issues that emerge from this, I think three things are crucial. First, the irony of the support for Dan Cathy is embarrassingly obvious. Given that many of the same people likely tossed their Dixie Chicks CDs in opposition to Natalie Maines's comment about Bush, it is ironic that they ate lunch in support of Dan Cathy's comments. Free speech is free speech. Right? What, then, is the qualitative difference between Maines and Cathy? Well, whether or not you happen to agree with the positions they take. Certainly. The long lines at Chik-fil-A showed us that most Americans believe in "free speech" in a particular way; they believe in "free speech" that aligns with their social, religious and political values. In other words, they support "free speech" with which they agree. All other "free speech" is held as suspect, dangerous and, as Cathy himself intimated, subject to God's judgment.

Second, I think a bit of thoughtful substitution is in order. Substitute "black," "Jews" or "women" for "same-sex marriage," and I don't think we would have had the long lines outside those restaurants last week. At least, I hope not. If Cathy wants to assert his freedom to actively work against one particular group and financially back organizations that share his views, we need to take that freedom to its logical conclusion. What if the issue was "interracial marriage" or "inter-religious marriage"? He would be well within his right as a Christian and an American citizen to express his opposition to those unions. But would all those people have lined up to show support if Cathy had responded "guilty as charged" to the claim that he didn't believe blacks should marry whites or Jews should marry Christians? That, too, is "free speech." We must ask ourselves why it is socially acceptable to show visible disdain for a certain segment of the population and the unions they form. Remember, it was just as socially acceptable to show that level of disregard for blacks, Jews and women's rights not that long ago. And many did so in the name of their Christianity.

Which brings me to my third point. Perhaps the most disheartening thing for me is the way many of Cathy's supporters have justified their support. "It's not about hate," they say, "it's about religious freedom." From a Christian standpoint, to say something is "not about hate" is a very low standard and entirely misses the mark. Anyone can say his or her actions are not born of hate. Indeed, I've heard members of the KKK say that very thing. They don't "hate" blacks, they just wish they'd keep to themselves or simply disappear. Some people would claim they don't hate Mexicans, they just wish we had stronger immigration laws and a long fence at the border. They don't hate Muslims; they just don't want a mosque in their neighborhood. They don't hate Sikhs; they just wished they didn't look like Muslims. They don't hate women; they just wish they'd stop yammering so much about their "rights." This is why Jesus' commandment to his followers -- to "love one another" -- was stated in the positive. Jesus didn't say, "don't hate one another"; his commandment was to "love." Love is the standard.

So, to all those who stood in line last week to get a sandwich for "free speech" and "religious freedom," you tell me it wasn't about hate, but was it about love? The honest answer to that question will tell us everything we need to know.

I support Dan Cathy's "free speech" and religious freedom. But he must respect my freedom to say that his comments were about hate and ignorance and were not about love. Love must be the standard, or when it comes to issues like the Chick-fil-A controversy, there are no standards.

 
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08:31 PM on 08/20/2012
"Given that many of the same people likely tossed their Dixie Chicks CDs in opposition to Natalie Maines's comment about Bush, it is ironic that they ate lunch in support of Dan Cathy's comments. Free speech is free speech. Right?"

Clearly, the issue is not merely "free speech" and I suspect you are being disingenous pretending that it is or ever was.

The issue is "approved speech". Right here on Huffpo, speech that is not approved often does not see the light of your monitor screen. What the first amendment grants is your right to speak unapproved speeches; but you have no right to compel other's beliefs or behavior thereby, or compel a company (Huffpo) to publish them.

The left tried really hard to silence Dan Cathy and put him out of business. The right said, "Not so fast, bubba!" figuratively speaking of course.

A few decades ago, Levi Strauss decided to send a message to the Boy Scouts of America and revoked its annual contribution to the BSA. That is entirely its right. Of course, it was my right to no longer buy Levi's.

It would be better, I think, for a company to not get involved in politics but it happens.
05:27 PM on 09/05/2012
Not so fast Bubba? Really? And exactly who is disingenuous if not you? You had to fake an argument to make any point at at all.
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Claude Hosch
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08:54 PM on 08/18/2012
Your assumptions aside. If not for Youtube, twitter, FB, blogs, and cable news beating the drums to get rating, the matter of Cathy's "honesty" about his views would not be discussed in this article. There should be more outrage for the obvious lies in campaign ads for the highest job in the country. I'll take an honest man, even in disagreement over an obvious liar. It seems lies are ok as long as they fit our ideas.
05:29 PM on 09/05/2012
In this case honesty is a luxury of power. You think I could divorce my wife and marry my gay partner and keep my job at chic? LOL!
06:07 PM on 08/14/2012
Your article is full of assumptions. I assume you are not a believer or follower in Jesus. Dan Cathy in a Biblically based definition of marriage and also expressed his personal beliefs that to dishonor God by ignoring His Word is not a wise thing to do. Mr. Cathy should support what he believes and charities and organizations that align with his beliefs. Do you not follow the same criteria?

I was at the Chick-fil-A appreciation day and was proud to be there; by the way I was totally uninterested in Natalie Maines of the Dixie Chicks comments in 2003. The issue was not racial, did not concern interracial marriage or woman’s rights. I question your motives of trying to bring those issues into play. If you know your religious facts then I will assume you know Jesus was a Jew and will return at His second coming as a Jew.

To answer your question, the appreciation day was not about hate at all. It was about Christians being weary of the teachings of Jesus being labeled as intolerant and hate speech.

The truth is; Jesus died for us while we were all still sinners. Because He loved us so, and that is the kind of love the Bible speaks of. A love that offers us salvation but does not condone or even accept sin. There is no greater love than to lay your life down for another.
03:57 PM on 08/19/2012
Yes LORD! Now that's what I'm talkin' about. To GOD Be The GLORY! And another thing Mr.Wallace Best, it is not a sin to be a Jew, it is not a sin to be a Woman and it is not a sin to be Black, but to go against the ALMIGHTY GOD...now that's hate.
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eve mahar
04:30 PM on 08/20/2012
you missed the entire point of this article.
07:40 AM on 08/11/2012
I would have expected a PhD to at least understand the basic situation.

The "Day of Appreciation" was called because some government entities were illegally threatening to ban business enterprises due to the religious inclination of the businessmen.

Maybe you need to cram a little before writing your paper.
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eve mahar
04:30 PM on 08/20/2012
And how do you think it felt to gays in the community? Do you think it felt like love? No. It felt like HATE.
08:54 PM on 08/20/2012
I imagine many things feel like that, whether it is or not is quite a different thing.
09:48 PM on 08/20/2012
Your response feels like 'HATE' to me.
Why do you hate me?
Why do you hate Chick-Fil-A?
11:32 PM on 08/10/2012
Mr. Best-you are distracted, like so many others, from the real issue-which is that it's not about love or lack of love, it is about the fact that a CEO can state what he believes. If you don't like it, don't eat there. And, let me ask you-do I have to agree with you to be loving? Because it seems to me that "love" keeps getting thrown around here-like it you don't agree you are not a loving person. Love does not always mean that we agree, it means that when we disagree, we treat each other with respect. Neither side of this issue is good at that. It's just a bandwagon issue that does nothing but stir up people and keep them distracted from real issues that are going on in this country.
05:38 PM on 09/05/2012
Does a worker in Chic have the same freedoms as the CEO? No.
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thorrsman
Why should I define myself by quoting others?
10:00 PM on 08/10/2012
Come on Wally, be honest: How much undeniable hate has there been AGAINST Dan Cathy and Chik-fil-a for simply supporting traditonal marriage, as most Americans do?

If you want to speak of "love" and "hate", speak about the actual hate that has been voiced rather than attempting to twist words and thought to "find" hate in those who have not said anything hateful.
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eve mahar
04:32 PM on 08/20/2012
There has not been hate for Dan Cathys beliefs. There has been outrage and opposition to him donating millions to classified hate groups. Which is certainly nothing like love, is it.
01:25 PM on 08/10/2012
Belief is not an idea that the mind possesses, it is an idea that possesses the mind.
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Brady McElligott
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01:02 PM on 08/10/2012
I think everyone should burn Dan Cathy's CD's and not let him sing his songs on the radio any more. But I think that everyone should start eating the Dixie Chicks' sandwiches again; enough is enough.
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Bones Rhodes
11:10 PM on 08/09/2012
" Substitute "black," "Jews" or "women" for "same-sex marriage," and I don't think we would have had the long lines outside those restaurants last week. "

Perhaps not: but it damn sure wouldn't have been because those same people wouldn't have really and truly WANTED to show their support: and, even though they learn slowly and it takes multiple lessons, even the religious "right" have learned there are certain areas in which their expression of their true beliefs will no longer be tolerated.
10:22 PM on 08/09/2012
Mr. Best: I can see you are a learned man, in fact a religious professor from the most prestigious institution in the country. People who read the Bible are in support of Cathy. No where in the Bible does it call out interracial or iner-religous marriage, so that's the problem and the only problem. Its a matter of hate, its about the fact if people follow the word, they are supposed to follow all or as many as they can. But as far as the Dixie Chicks go, that's an entirely different matter. In war time, Americans are supposed to stand together and support the people who are dying for our right to sit here in the comfort of our living rooms and post these threads. But if you calling out Christians for supporting Cathy and condemning the D Chicks, its also in the Bible that we forgive our enemies or those who offend us.
07:18 AM on 08/10/2012
Like in the days where interracial and interreligious marriage were outlawed there were then verses used to condemn it, such as Deut 7:3-4, 2 Cor 6:14. Likewise, the use of verses out of context to condemn homosexuals is being done today in the same vein. It is born out of a dislike for homosexuals, and then by finding verses to back it up. If you have read the entirety of the Bible then you know that it is entirely summed up in 3 verses, Matthew 22:37-40.
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taoistpunk
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02:20 PM on 08/10/2012
"People who read the Bible are in support of Cathy."
why be dishonest? why not just admit that plenty of people who read the bible come to different conclusions? would you also claim that there is only one denomination of christianity?

like anyone else who, "follow all or as many as they can" you pick and chose what you want to believe and what you want to follow. you are every bit as likely to base your doctrine on previously held and extra-biblical beliefs as anyone else.

how do i know?

"In war time, Americans are supposed to stand together and support the people who are dying for our right to sit here in the comfort of our living rooms"

... which bible verse is that?
03:15 PM on 08/10/2012
Let's get something straight here, Nobody is dishonest, lets generalize for sake of space, people read the bible because of they think they are supposed to and others have a personal relationship with God. Those who have the personal relationship are all or nothing, those are the people who support Cathy. Me personally, I think he ought to stick to making chicken but he does have 1st amend right. Americans? In war time across all nations, it can be treasonous depending upon the disgression. In D Chicks case people got mad because we were attacked at 9/11 and the public was unified in support of the troops who were fighting for the D CHicks right to have a great life. Its common decency but if you are looking for it in the Bible its called LOVE THY NEIGHBOR
03:30 PM on 08/09/2012
For all those on here defending Dan Cathy's freedom of speech and freedom of religion I have a quick question--

Why haven't we heard anything from Palin, Huckabee, Fox News and the rest of you about the government trying to block the construction and use of a house of worship?

Perhaps because it is a mosque--and the government is right wing and in Tennessee?

http://articles.cnn.com/2012-07-18/justice/justice_tennesee-mosque-lawsuit_1_controversial-mosque-ramadan-federal-lawsuit

But now that you're all aware I look forward to the outpouring of support I sure will ensue.
12:48 PM on 08/09/2012
It's a "all about me" society. Pride is the reason for the downfall."I love me" is the common phrase used by many. God is love and accepts everyone but we must put our egos aside and understand that some of our actions are not accepted by God.
Why continue to try to find a way for society to accept our sexual orientation when it's God opinion the only one that matters? Why gamble to find happiness with someone else ( same sex or not) here on earth when God is the only one that can give you FULL happiness for ever? As you can see both questions revolve on our own desires instead of putting them aside and finding out what's God will is.
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BeninOakland
Don't tell me you love me. Let me guess.
02:19 PM on 08/09/2012
And i'm sure you and a host of other so-called christians are going to tell us exactly what god's will is.

And not surprisingly, every time, it will coincide with your own.
05:34 PM on 08/09/2012
Actually you can find out what Gods will is on your own. He will reveal it to you if you truely seek him.
04:53 PM on 08/09/2012
The God Trick
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0yV7IA0PNqE
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Bones Rhodes
11:25 PM on 08/09/2012
Thank you for that: I HAVE seen the light - the FSM and his/her/its abundantly meaty sauce is an illusion and only SOOTY is real and truly loves me.
12:14 PM on 08/09/2012
So the Road to Golgotha is paved with processed chicken, eaten for your own enjoyment? What a bold statement of commitment.
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TN4th
Southern Thinker
11:11 AM on 08/09/2012
There is much to like about your article. I would quibble with you point about free speech in that exercise of that right does not come with immunity from consequences. Just as both Maines and Cathey have the right to voice their beliefs, so customers have the right to support or withdraw support based on their own beliefs. I'm glad Cathey spoke out -- it gives me the information I need to make sure I don't inadvertently contribute to his fortune. I would rather vote elsewhere with my pocketbook.
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elderwalker
Preacher, Pastor and most of all a servant and fol
10:53 AM on 08/09/2012
Many forget living and serving God is a choice sit down one day and go through the bible and count how many times "IF YOU WILL" is use a statement indicating a choice has to be made by a person, an individual or a group of people, Really the same-sex movement doesn't really brother me because the bible tell us that man will do ungodly things and as far a hateing gays or homosexuals I don't I feel sorry for them because of how I believe and my understanding that Satan the enemy of God and faith wants God creation "Man" To share his judgment of everlasting damnation yes Christians are the prize but sinners will do as well for even a sinner was still created by God and came from Adam the frist man. And yes when the opportunity present itself to minister to Homosexuals about God and God's plan for man and how he should live I do and so far some had put down that lifesytle and are now living as men and serving God, Now many don't and won't like what I do and preach, Oh well for again I am not under the illusion that everybody is going to believe upon or after hearing the word of God, even the bible tell us that, So your point will be what? Other than just getting mad or protesting.
12:54 PM on 08/09/2012
If Cain & Abel were the only infallible inerrant children of Adam and Eve who did they have sex with to have descendants OR do tell why "traditional, biblical marriage ' include a King Solomon with 700 wives and 300 concubines?

Now if you can Pastord, that is a miracle im waiting to witness.
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LittleFish31617
God shall be all in all.
01:36 PM on 08/09/2012
God wasn't particularly happy with Solomon about the whole wives thing; it was actually forbidden (1 Kings 11:4).

As a result of those wives and the idolatry that they led him into, Isreal was divided after Solomon's death as punishment.
01:40 PM on 08/09/2012
Who said Cain and Abel were infallable? The Fall had already happened.