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My Family's History with Nakba

Posted: 05/18/2012 5:29 pm

This week, Palestinians around the world commemorated the Nakba, or "catastrophe," referring to the displacement of over 700,000 Palestinians at the time of Israel's founding in 1948. From the West Bank to the West Coast, protestors waved colorful flags and held signs demanding recognition for the plight and rights of the dispossessed.

Yet beneath the barrage of political symbols and slogans lies a human experience of heartache and loss, to which Americans of all backgrounds might possibly relate.

I was shielded from this experience as a child. In Amman, Jordan, where I grew up in the '80s, events across the ever-dwindling river were background noise. My friends at school mostly talked about last Thursday's party and the cute girls in class.

It was at an American summer arts camp, of all places, that I began to confront my family's ruptured past. At age 15, amid Michigan's woodlands and the sounds of Beethoven's Waldstein sonata, I made Jewish friends for the first time. At first, we mostly talked about music.

But before long, our discussions turned to what was apparently the elephant in the room. In the cafeteria, over macaroni and cheese and lemonade, I was told "the land belongs to us" and "we were there first." I felt something was not right, but I couldn't begin to articulate why. My parents -- two oceans away -- told me to keep practicing my piano scales.

Camp ended and I returned to Jordan, determined to connect the dots. Soon after my mother begrudgingly accepted my request to "take me there;" we were on the road westwards. Arriving in Jerusalem, we embarked on a whirlwind tour of the land. I saw Jews of many backgrounds in the malls of West Jerusalem and the alleys of Tel Aviv. I met Palestinian tour guides in Bethlehem, surrounded by military checkpoints and roadblocks, and shopkeepers in Jaffa, the city of my parents' birth and now a rundown suburb of Tel Aviv.

In Ramleh, a depressed town near Ben-Gurion International Airport, I posed in front of the city hall -- the blue and white flag fluttering high above it -- as my mother took photos of what was my great-grandfather's house. It was built several months before the family fled to Jordan, never to return.

I later learned from my grandparents, who refused to join us on that trip, that my family's story was not uncommon. In April 1948, they boarded a bus to Amman, hoping to wait out the violence. Their exile was made permanent after Israeli troops "liberated" Ramleh in July of that year and expelled most of the town's majority Arab population. The one relative who had stayed behind to look after the family properties, which subsequently passed into Israeli government ownership, had to walk to Ramallah, from where he made his way to Amman.

I begged my grandparents for tales of the old country, and their shattered world slowly came to life. I discovered that my family's Protestant roots lie in one great-grandfather's decision to abandon his Eastern Orthodox faith and become a pastor within tayfet al-shilling (literally the "shilling sect"), as Protestants were nicknamed in reference to the British missionaries that had converted them. I listened intently to my grandmother's description of her father, the enterprising Sido Abu Saliba, who had set up a currency exchange business and a bus company to transport him daily to his job. He traded in Gaza's gold market (despite a British ban on the activity) and on Tel Aviv's stock exchange with a Jewish partner. He insisted on sleeping on the rooftop on hot summer nights, only to wake up shrieking one time after being bitten by a 44-legged centipede.

My grandmother recalled less fondly her uncle Samaan, the family's self-appointed moral policeman who had convinced her father to end her schooling at age 11 after having found a love letter addressed to her from a fellow classmate.

I longed for these memories to become my own. My mother wanted nothing less. "I am like an ostrich with its head in the sand," she would say whenever someone mentioned the "P" word. For her and my grandparents, remembering was both painful and futile in the face of the countless wars and political failures. Self-enforced amnesia, combined with a focus on the material present, was the only viable option. Discussion of Palestine at home was so rare -- and abrupt when it did occur -- that I began to wonder whether my family was ever there. I had to rummage through black-and-white photos of Easter parties, frayed property deeds, and obscure Hebrew websites to allay my lingering doubts.

Since 1948, the new society that had risen on Palestine's remains seemed uninterested in what was there before. I had to roam the older parts of Amman, where many Palestinians had settled, to get a feel for the chipped limestone and arched windows of their original homes. I had to trek the Jordanian countryside to imagine more vividly the Palestinian villages that had been razed to make way for idyllic parks or converted into bohemian artist colonies.

I started to see Palestine in everything. In comparison to my ancestors, who had real experiences of their land, my existence felt transplanted and hollow. My mother implored me, "Get Palestine out of your system!"

I thought back to the flag above my great-grandfather's house. It did not seem to acknowledge what lay beneath it. It confidently claimed what was taken by force. It made me feel that celebrating my heritage was confrontational, politically charged. Remembering that 44-legged centipede felt like an act of defiance. I am waiting for the day when these memories are reduced to what they are: the story of a family on a land.

My grandparents' memories, like all that is forbidden, won't let me go. So I keep longing for a place that I never belonged to, yet seem unable to forget.

Wasim Salfiti is a writer living between Amman, Jordan and Washington, DC. He works in development finance.

 
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discocapper
Israel Only Fires Back!
07:52 PM on 05/22/2012
The Expulsion of Arab Refugees Libel
http://www.americanthinker.com/2008/04/the_expulsion_libel_1948_arab.html
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Geo80
Truth. Reality. Smart, sane people agree with me
05:52 AM on 05/22/2012
Wow, every Israel article is flooded with half-truths and lies by the same 12-15 hatemongers
12:08 AM on 05/22/2012
Naqba denial should be outlawed and treated as a h8 crime. Violators jailed and fined big time!
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discocapper
Israel Only Fires Back!
07:33 PM on 05/22/2012
Then so should denial of Israel's right to exist.
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Eric Nepgen
Restiamo Umani
02:58 AM on 05/23/2012
Nobody is denying Israel right to exist.
Or let me put it this way.....do Jews accept the right to exist of Palestinians ?
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Cynthia Rays
peace in the valley seeker
10:15 PM on 05/21/2012
Massacres occurred before the partition:

" April 9, 1948, commandos of the Irgun (headed by Menachem Begin) and the Stern Gang attacked Deir Yassin, a village with about 750 Palestinian residents. The village lay outside of the area to be assigned by the United Nations to the Jewish State; it had a peaceful reputation. But it was located on high ground in the corridor between Tel Aviv and Jerusalem. Deir Yassin was slated for occupation under Plan Dalet and the mainstream Jewish defense force, the Haganah, authorized the irregular terrorist forces of the Irgun and the Stern Gang to perform the takeover.... over 100 men, women, and children were systematically murdered."
http://www.deiryassin.org/
12:38 AM on 05/22/2012
Why were there Iraqi troops in Deir Yassin? They weren't picknicing. As usual the Arab forces were using the civilians as a shield. The population was warned with a loudspeeaker truck prior to the attack. I have read accounts by survivors who confirm this. If the Arabs would have accepted the UN Partition Plan (like the populations of India and Pakistan and Greece and Turkey did in their times) none of this would have happened.
06:12 AM on 05/22/2012
April 9, 1948 is over a month before any Arab League troops entered Palestine.
Please post a link to where you " read accounts by survivors who confirm this".
07:22 AM on 06/17/2012
Oh so because they were warned with a loudspeaker truck prior to the attack, Palestinians were expected to look forward to homelessness and pack up their lives and evacuate their homes and land? How generous of the Irgun to give Palestinians a heads up before invading their city and killing their loved ones!
If a 3rd party walked into your home and requested that you share one half of your house with another random family, would you accept the "Partition Plan" and pack up and move into the one half? Doubt it.
03:30 PM on 05/21/2012
"In April 1948, they boarded a bus to Amman, hoping to wait out the violence. Their exile was made permanent after Israeli troops "liberated" Ramleh in July of that year and expelled most of the town's majority Arab population."

Yeah, just hoping to "wait out the violence" perpetrated by the surrounding Arab dictatorships and the Arabs in Israel seeking the destruction of the Israelis. Can we not just say the facts? A war was launched by the Arabs inside and outside of Israel with the intent to destroy all of them. The Arabs lost that war.
08:26 PM on 05/22/2012
Under international law it is entirely irrelevant who encouraged civilians to flee the theatre of war, if any, and it is further irrelevant who was the aggressor in any hostilities. Civilians have an absolute right to flee the fighting and then return to their homes.
07:54 AM on 05/23/2012
It is EXTREMELY relevant who perpetrated the war of destruction in 1948. And it is EXTREMELY relevant whether or not a person picking up a weapon and fighting is a civilian. And it is EXTREMELY relevant what compensation is owed to the over 700000 Jewish Arab CIVILIANS expelled for no reason without property from the surrounding Arab dictatorships should be given.
02:33 PM on 05/21/2012
The author has much to learn about his family. The source of the name Saliba is Aramaic and the family history goes back to Sparta. For centuries they have lived in Lebanon and in the 1890's they despersed throughout the world. Some of the family went south to the Ottoman Provence (500 years of Ottoman rule) where, for example, Ramle is located. It wasn't called Palestine by anyone in the region, only by the Europeans. The Jews know this region as the Land of Israel where they have lived continuously for 3000 years and the Arabs knew it as Southern Syria. Many of today’s Palestinians arrived in the region in the late 19th C and early 20th C looking for employment generated by the Zionists who have returned to their Jewish homeland. In researching family names of many Palestinians, as with the Saliba family, one will learn the origins of these families who had no ancestral ties to the region now called Palestine. If the Arabs who lived in British Mandate wouldn't have fled under the pressure of their leaders as did many Arabs who today live in the democratic State of Israel their lives would have been much different today. Regarding the Christians in the Middle East, Israel is the only country where the Christian population has increased since they are not persecuted as they are in the surrounding Moslem countries.
06:30 AM on 05/22/2012
" Many of today’s Palestinians arrived in the region in the late 19th C"

This calumny has been widely discredited by British and Ottoman records and demographic data.
The Ottoman census of 1878 put the Muslim population of Jerusalem, Nablus and Acre districts at 403,795.

"From analyses of rates of increase of the Muslim population of the three Palestinian sanjaks, one can say with certainty that Muslim immigration after the 1870s was small. Had there been a large group of Muslim immigrants their numbers would have caused an unusual increase in the population and this would have appeared in the calculated rate of increase from one registration list to another... Such an increase would have been easily noticed; it was not there."
- McCarthy, Justin (1990). The Population of Palestine: Population History and Statistics of the Late Ottoman Period and the Mandate

"From abroad, we are accustomed to believe that Eretz Israel is presently almost totally desolate....But in truth it is not so. In the entire land, it is hard to find tillable land that is not already tilled... Many of our people who came to buy land have been in Eretz Israel for months, and have toured its length and width, without finding what they seek."

- Ahad Ha'am early Zionist writing in 1891
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Cynthia Rays
peace in the valley seeker
11:43 AM on 05/21/2012
documentation by of theft of Palestinian libraries in 1948.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=myvobIkwkNM
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BcemXAHA
אני כלום בלעדיהם
04:22 PM on 05/21/2012
In June 1949 Sir John Troutbeck, head of the British Middle East office in Cairo reported that the refugees “express no bitterness against the Jews (or for that matter against the Americans or ourselves) they speak with the utmost bitterness of the Egyptians and other Arab states. “We know who our enemies are,” they will say, and they are referring to their Arab brothers who, they declare, persuaded them unnecessarily to leave their homes…I even heard it said that many of the refugees would give a welcome to the Israelis if they were to come in and take the district over.”
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Domingo Cardoza
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07:46 PM on 05/21/2012
HI B:

Hope all is well. I have read a few of your comments today. Try to keep it civil please. Thank you, D
06:33 AM on 05/22/2012
Like Troutbeck huh?

On 2 June 1948, Sir John Troutbeck wrote to the foreign secretary, Ernest Bevin, that the Americans were responsible for the creation of a gangster state headed by "an utterly unscrupulous set of leaders".
http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2009/jan/07/gaza-israel-palestine
11:40 AM on 05/21/2012
Don't forget about the 900,000 Jewish refugees who were expelled from Arab countries following the creation of Israel. Many arrived in Israel on foot with just the clothes on their backs.
http://www.istrue.net/2012/04/04/dont-forget-about-jewish-refugees-from-arab-countries/
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Cynthia Rays
peace in the valley seeker
12:02 PM on 05/21/2012
" During a Knesset hearing into the matter, Ran Cohen, Knesset member: "I am not a refugee....I came at the behest of Zionism, due to the pull that this land exerts, and due to the idea of redemption. Nobody is going to define me as a refugee."
(Ha'aretz, October 8, 2004)

"Any reasonable person, Zionist or non-Zionist, must acknowledge that the analogy drawn between Palestinians and Mizrahi Jews is unfounded. Palestinian refugees did not want to leave Palestine. Many Palestinian communities were destroyed in 1948, and some 700,000 Palestinians were expelled, or fled, from the borders of historic Palestine. Those who left
did not do so of their own volition. In contrast, Jews from Arab lands came to this country under the initiative of the State of Israel and Jewish organizations. Some came of their own free will; others arrived against their will." (Professor Yehouda Shenhav, Tel Aviv University)"
03:27 PM on 05/21/2012
Well Well, it's Cynthia, posting her support of Gadaffi and Assad and now posting the false canard that somehow the Arab Jews who arrived penniless from the surrounding Arab dictatorships in Israel were not expelled, but just wanted to uproot themselves after thousands of years, leave all their property and possessions behind and arrive in a fragile new country with nothing. Yes Cynthia, the peace you "seek" probably includes a lot of victims.
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BcemXAHA
אני כלום בלעדיהם
04:21 PM on 05/21/2012
On December 15th, 1949 the Michigan Arab newspaper As Sabah [The Morning Tribune] published an editorial on the question of the Palestine Arab refugees:

“What is the crime of the refugees in the eyes of the lords of Arabia who stand by and watch the misery of the refugees, and who suck the blood of the poor and needy-without shame before God and the world? Yes the poor refugees committed the crime of listening to those deceivers, they believed the liars, and went to the extreme foolishness of leaving their homes, counting on their deceitful leaders to bring them back! And because of what is happening to the Palestine refugees, Arab public opinion is changing little by little to support the Jews in Israel where not a single Arab dies from starvation and cold! And if there should be another war, it should be against the Arab leaders, the princes and kings who brought this catastrophe upon the poor people of Palestine.”

British officials on the scene at the time, hardly pro-Zionist, were convinced that Palestinian leaders were steadily abandoning their people. In December 1947 the High Commissioner, General Sir Alan Cunningham reported that “panic of (the) middle class persists and there is a steady exodus of those who can afford to leave the country." He added later in April 1948, “In all parts of the country the effendi class has been evacuating in large numbers over a considerable period and the tempo is increasing.”
08:31 PM on 05/22/2012
No one is forgetting that (as if some on this board would ever allow it), but it is also a red herring. If individuals affected by those circumstances and their descendents wish to return to those other countries, they should petition to do so.

I am not aware of any such petition ever being rejected.
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Gonzo36
Pro-awesome!
10:42 AM on 05/21/2012
My friend has a very similar story. She is Israeli and was born and raised in the area Israel gave back to Egypt. She too was forced out of her home by troops. She too was relocated from the only home she had ever known. But instead of lamenting her loss she has moved on. Just like the Jews who survived the holocaust. They too left the lands that didn't want them and created a thriving country. Since time eternal this is how countries are formed and destroyed. Why the Palestinians think they are different, i will never know. Live isn't fair. But you pick up and move on.
06:48 AM on 05/22/2012
I am sure there are individual histories of Jews forced from their homes in Iraq, Egypt etc amid the backlash against the atrocities and dispossessions forced by Zionists around 1948. What is very clear is that those folk had lived unmolested up until 1947/8. That it was general is not supported by Jewish Historians:

"The unfounded, immoral analogy between Palestinian refugees and Mizrahi immigrants needlessly embroils members of these two groups in a dispute,,,.the campaign's proponents hope their efforts will prevent conferral of what is called a "right of return" on Palestinians.."
- Yehouda Shenhav head of advanced studies in the Van Leer Jerusalem Institute, winner of the Association for Israeli Studies award for The Arab Jews: A Postcolonial Reading of Nationalism, Religion, and Ethnicity.

"Iraqi Jews aren't refugees, saying that "nobody expelled us from Iraq, nobody told us that we were unwanted"
- Avi Shlaim, Iraqi born professor of International Relations at the University of Oxford and a fellow of the British Academy.
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yonatan c
08:35 PM on 05/22/2012
I believe Gonzo is actaully referring to someone who previously lived in the illegal Israeli settlements that had been established in the Siani between 1967 and 1979. They were withdrawn as part of the eace treaty between Egypt and Israel... by Israeli troops acting under the orders of the Israeli government, and moved to other housing inside Israel or the remaining occupied territories.

It's not nearly the same as the Palestinains who fled their homes out of fear of violence in 1948, or Jews who fled their communities in Iran shortly thereafter.
09:22 AM on 05/21/2012
This is the story of every Palestinian, All Palestinians experienced this in his own way, nostalgia, lost of identity, ...............while I was reading this article I remebered the first time I went to bethlehem after 1967, I felt in the shoes of the writer......
09:07 AM on 05/21/2012
This sitiuation was tragic but Palestinians and Muslims in general while claiming the world should side with them completely dismiss the forced displacement and explusion of 750,000 Jews from Muslims countries and the miserable treatment and restrictions on the few Jews still remaing in those countries.

Facts totally ignored by the Palestinians.
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GZLives
11:08 AM on 05/21/2012
Other fact completely ignored - had the Arabs accepted Partition as the Jews did - and not opted to make war instead, today they'd be celebrating their 65 year as a nation State
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doughnut70
04:43 AM on 05/21/2012
It's amazing how many people claim they left their land to wait out the violence somewhere else. The fact is that virtually every Arab family who left did so at the behest of the advancing Arab Armies which broadcast the message on the media to "get out so we can get it." They were afraid that their Armies might hesitate if they wound up killing Arabs along with Jews.
04:18 PM on 05/21/2012
Absolutely untrue...
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doughnut70
03:46 AM on 05/22/2012
Here is one of literally hundreds of sources that say exactly that.  Can you cite one that claims it is untrue?http://spme.net/cgi-bin/articles.cgi?ID=7167
06:55 AM on 05/22/2012
"Hitchens refers to Benny Morris´s then newly published article "The Causes and Character of the Arab Exodus from Palestine: The Israel Defense Forces Intelligence Service Analysis of June 1948", which was first published in January 1986 in the Middle Eastern Studies in which Hitchens quotes Morris as saying that the IDF intelligence report 'thoroughly undermines the traditional official Israeli "explanation" of a mass flight ordered or "incited" by the Arab leadership for political-strategic purposes.' (page 75)
According to Hitchens this confirmation "by an Israeli historian using the most scrupulous and authentic Zionist sources, at last allows us to write finis to a debate which has been going on for a quarter of a century."
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blaming_the_Victims#.22Broadcasts.22_.28Christopher_Hitchens.29

Further reading:
"I next decided to test the undocumented charge that the Arab evacuation orders were broadcast by Arab radio-which could be done thoroughly because the BBC monitored all Middle Eastern broadcasts throughout 1948. The records, and companion ones by a U.S. monitoring unit, can be seen at the British Museum.

There was not a single order, or appeal, or suggestion about evacuation from Palestine from any Arab radio station, inside or outside Palestine, in 1948. There is repeated monitored record of Arab appeals, even flat orders, to the civilians of Palestine to stay put."
http://www.users.cloud9.net/~recross/israel-watch/ErskinChilders.html
01:46 AM on 05/21/2012
6,000,000 Palestinian Semites where ethnically cleansed. Never forget!
01:50 PM on 05/21/2012
You apparently are mathematically challenged.
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discocapper
Israel Only Fires Back!
07:59 PM on 05/22/2012
And THAT'S just the TIP of the iceberg!
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yonatan c
05:00 PM on 05/22/2012
lol, wow. what a dis-service you are doing the Palestinians
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stockton jeff
06:27 PM on 05/20/2012
The situation of Christians in the West Bank and Gaza, territories held under a brutal Israeli military occupation since 1967, is even more stark. Due to Israel's Apartheid wall and its dizzying system of checkpoints and permits, no Palestinian resident of the West Bank or Gaza, Christian or otherwise, enjoys freedom of worship at Jerusalem's holy sites. That freedom can only be granted by Israel, which, in contravention of international law, has unilaterally claimed complete control of East Jerusalem, extending its municipal boundaries to expropriate thousands of Palestinian homes and systematically withdrawing their inhabitants' right of residency. And for those Palestinians who have managed to maintain residency within these forcibly drawn boundaries, Israel has launched a brazen campaign of evictions and home demolitions to make room for illegal Jewish-only settlements and other state projects
03:34 PM on 05/21/2012
This is factually incorrect, a fabrication, and a product of seething hatred. Palestinian Christian population continued to grow in the West Bank and Gaza while under Israeli rule. Upon the turning over of the land to be administered by the Arabs, Christians were harassed, murdered, and mistreated (just like they are in Iran and Egypt). It is only after the Israelis left that the Christians were subjected to Arab "justice" and they are leaving by the thousands.
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stockton jeff
06:26 PM on 05/20/2012
Conveniently, the Israeli Central Bureau of Statistics offers no breakdown of religious groups for 1948, the year Israel was created. Still, a recent report shows that some Palestinian population centers saw their Christian population virtually gutted; Haifa, for example, lost 85 percent of its Christian residents in 1948. And in any case, no historian, Israeli or otherwise, disputes that Zionist forces unleashed equal brutality on all of Palestine's Arabs. As such, the modern Christian exodus from the Holy Land began with the creation of the State of Israel
03:36 PM on 05/21/2012
The pupose here is to post false and untrue diatribes against the Israelis to attempt to get Christians to also hate the Israelis. That is the objective in making these statements. Ever notice the so called concern for the "Palestinian Christians" by the very people who support the mass murdering dictatorships of Syria, Libya, and Iran? I will bet Stockton Jeff has never spoken out about the murders of Christians in Egypt.....no, that is not an issue for Jeff.
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stockton jeff
05:17 PM on 05/21/2012
Is there a problem with the facts or do you find diverting away from the history of what Israel has done the norm in the way you discuss the issues.