Wendy Lustbader
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Wendy Lustbader, M.S.W., has considerable experience working with older people, their families and caregivers. A medical social worker who specialized for almost twenty years in out-patient mental health at the Pike Market Medical Clinic in Seattle, she has also practiced in a home health care agency, hospital geriatric unit and nursing home. She is currently Affiliate Associate Professor at the University of Washington School of Social Work and lectures nationally on subjects related to aging. Wendy’s first book was co-authored with Nancy Hooyman, Taking Care of Aging Family Members. This is a practical guide to caregiving which is still considered the best book of its kind by experts in the field of aging. Her second book, Counting on Kindness, helps readers to comprehend the complex and often unspeakable feelings which arise when we become dependent on others for help. It is often used in the training of social workers, nurses, and physicians, and is regarded as a classic for health care providers. Her third book, What’s Worth Knowing, is a collection of pithy insights gathered from older people that has been used by ministers in sermons and managers wishing to liven up staff meetings. Her latest book, Life Gets Better: The Unexpected Pleasures of Growing Older, opposes the stereotype of aging as dimishment.

Blog Entries by Wendy Lustbader

Caregiving: The Dance Between Guilt and Resentment

2 Comments | Posted January 20, 2012 | 01/20/12 08:46 AM ET

When an older family member needs help, many people struggle to find the time to provide assistance to their relative amidst the many other commitments crowding their lives. Often, it is hard to figure out just how much help is really necessary. Some caregivers try to give too much time...

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Ten Ways Life Gets Better as We Get Older

50 Comments | Posted December 28, 2011 | 12/28/11 11:33 AM ET

1. Our confidence grows. Youth is a time of searching and insecurity, trying to figure out how to live, and as time passes we gather more and more certainty about our own aims and preferences. We become less interested in comparing ourselves to others, having slowly gained an internal compass.

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You're Not Better Than Me and I'm Not Better Than You

Posted October 15, 2011 | 10/15/11 01:54 PM ET

I'm Nobody! Who are you?
Are you - Nobody - Too?

-- Emily Dickinson

As early as kindergarten, we become aware that there are some kids that everyone wants to play with. Select groups congeal around these kids and all the others are shunned. Thus begins a sense...

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Waking Up to What Really Matters

Posted August 16, 2011 | 08/16/11 08:32 AM ET

Two veils separate us from the divine -- health and security.
-Sufi saying

I once asked a particularly warm-hearted oncologist how he could stand to have so many of his patients die, yet remain so open in his relationships. He revealed that every year he goes into remote areas...

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