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Winifred M. Reilly
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Winifred M. Reilly, MA, MFT, is a psychotherapist specializing in marital therapy and relationship issues, with a private practice in Berkeley, Calif. She is the author of the relationship advice blog Speaking of Marriage and a forthcoming book that explains why relationships are so predictably frustrating and difficult and shows what couples can do besides fight, give up or drive each other crazy.

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How to be Happily Married in a World of Naysayers

(4) Comments | Posted May 13, 2015 | 5:41 PM

We've all heard the jokes:

The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret.

I married Ms. Right. I just didn't know that her first name was Always.

Marriage is talked about as if it's a jail sentence, a ball and chain, the mistake of a lifetime.

Some have...

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10 Everyday Relationship Issues That Aren't Worth Freaking Out About

(6) Comments | Posted March 13, 2015 | 10:15 PM

One of the best parts of my job as a couples therapist is that I get to deliver good news.

Couples come in fearing that their marriage is too far gone to fix, and I get to tell them it's not.

Yes, some people are in serious trouble and if...

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36 cosas que sé después de 36 años de matrimonio

(9) Comments | Posted February 5, 2015 | 12:00 AM

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Esta semana, mi marido y yo celebraremos nuestro 36º aniversario.

Algunos años nos hemos arreglado y hemos salido a cenar. Otros, simplemente lo hemos celebrado con un beso.

Una vez los dos estábamos enfermos con gripe y tengo el recuerdo vago...

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Como ter um casamento mais feliz - sem mudar nada

(0) Comments | Posted January 23, 2015 | 5:56 PM

Primeiro de janeiro. Um dia de recomeços e novos inícios. Um dia que juramos comer mais vegetais, usar mesmo a nossa academia e tentar, mais uma vez, perder aqueles quilinhos extras.
Geralmente ao olharmos para o novo ano nos concentramos em maneiras de sermos "melhores" - resolvemos fazer mais...

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Wie Sie eine glücklichere Ehe führen können - ohne irgendetwas zu ändern

(0) Comments | Posted January 7, 2015 | 10:50 AM

Es ist Januar. Der Monat für frische Anläufe und Neubeginne. Der Monat, in dem wir uns schwören, mehr Gemüse zu essen, unsere Fitnessstudio-Mitgliedschaft auch wirklich zu nutzen und noch einmal zu versuchen, die überflüssigen Pfunde zu verlieren.

Wenn wir auf das neue Jahr schauen, konzentrieren wir uns stets auf Wege,...

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아무것도 바꾸지 않고 행복한 결혼 생활하는 법

(0) Comments | Posted January 6, 2015 | 3:33 PM

*이 기사는 허핑턴포스트US 블로거이자 가족 관계 상담사 위니프레드 M. 라일리의 을 번역, 편집한 것입니다.


2015년 새해. 새로운 날이 시작됐다. 올해는 채소도 더 많이 먹고 헬스장도 제대로 가고, 몸무게를 1kg라도 꼭 빼겠다고 우리는 다시 한 번 자신과 약속한다.

새해를 맞으며 우리는 어떻게 더 '나은' 삶을 살...

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How to Have a Happier Marriage -- Without Changing a Thing

(18) Comments | Posted December 31, 2014 | 11:41 AM

January 1st. The day of fresh starts and new beginnings. The day we vow to eat more green vegetables, actually use our gym membership, and try, once again, to lose those hard to lose pounds.

As we look to the new year, we often focus on ways to be "better"...

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36년 부부 생활을 통해 깨달은 36가지

(0) Comments | Posted December 26, 2014 | 9:55 AM

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이번 주에 우리 부부는 결혼 36주년을 맞았다.

어떤 해에는 결혼기념일을 축하하러 옷을 멋지게 차려입고 외식을 한 적도 있고, 또 어떤 해에는 간단한 키스로 대신한 적도 있다.

또 한 번은 둘 다 독감이 걸려서 오렌지 주스로 건배한 후 침대에서 하루 종일 잔 적도 있다.

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36 lezioni imparate dopo 36 anni di matrimonio

(0) Comments | Posted December 18, 2014 | 9:57 AM

Questa settimana mio marito e io festeggeremo il nostro trentaseiesimo anniversario.

A volte, nel corso degli anni, ci siamo vestiti di tutto punto e siamo andati a cena fuori. Altre abbiamo semplicemente celebrato la ricorrenza con un bacio.

Una volta eravamo entrambi influenzati, e ho un vago ricordo di...

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36 Dinge, die ich in 36 Jahren Ehe gelernt habe

(0) Comments | Posted December 17, 2014 | 4:05 PM

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Diese Woche feiern mein Mann und ich unseren 36. Hochzeitstag.

Manchmal haben wir uns für diesen Anlass in Schale geworfen und sind ausgegangen. Manchmal haben wir uns zur Feier des Tages lediglich einen Kuss gegeben.

An einem Hochzeitstag hatten wir beide die Grippe...

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36 Things I Know After 36 Years of Marriage

(126) Comments | Posted December 15, 2014 | 1:19 PM

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This week, my husband and I will celebrate our 36th anniversary.

Some years we've gotten dressed-up and gone out to dinner. Other years we've simply marked the day with a kiss.

Once, we were both sick with the flu and I vaguely remember...

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Give Your Spouse the Gift That Can't Go Wrong

(3) Comments | Posted December 3, 2014 | 11:12 AM

Whether you're a big holiday shopper or a minimalist, here's one gift your spouse is guaranteed to enjoy.

There's no need to wrap it and plenty of opportunity to use it.

This year, give your partner a break.

Fifteen minutes late? Think: Oh, she had a hard time getting out...

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말하지 않고 사랑을 전달하는 법 25가지

(1) Comments | Posted October 30, 2014 | 10:05 PM

위의 글은 The Huffington Post US의 블로거이자 부부 전문 상담사 윌프레드 라일리의 블로그 글을 한국어로 번역한 것입니다.


언젠가 남편과 장거리여행을 떠난 적이 있었는데 비행기 안에서 복도를 두고 앉게 됐다. 당시 남편은 내게 “여보 샌드위치 좀 줄까?” “물 좀 마실래?” 라며 챙겨주었고 재미없는 농담을 하기도 했다. 비행기...

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25 Wege, wie Sie ohne Worte „Ich liebe dich" sagen können

(0) Comments | Posted October 28, 2014 | 4:55 PM

Kürzlich hatten mein Mann und ich auf einem Innlandflug Sitze auf beiden Seiten des Gangs. Mehrere Male lehnte er sich zu mir herüber, um mich zu fragen, ob ich einen Bissen von seinem Sandwich haben wolle oder ob er mir ein bisschen Wasser bringen könne. Einmal bot er mir an,...

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25 Ways to Say "I Love You" Without Saying a Word

(39) Comments | Posted October 27, 2014 | 2:57 PM

Recently, on a cross-country flight, my husband and I were seated on opposite sides of the aisle. Several times, he leaned toward me to ask, "Would you like a bite of my sandwich?" "Can I get you some water?" Once he offered to share the last bite of his cookie....

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7 Things No Spouse Can Be Expected to Do

(4) Comments | Posted September 29, 2014 | 6:14 PM

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Want to guess?

Hint: I'm not talking about the laundry or housework or some wild, exotic move in the bedroom.

And no, this has nothing to do with being able to bake a soufflé, or adhere to a budget, or be cheerful about...

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4 Reasons to Put Date Night on Your Calendar -- In Ink!

(1) Comments | Posted August 12, 2014 | 12:15 PM

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Whether you've been married five weeks, five years, or even five decades, date night is a ritual you should regularly observe.

I know. This is hardly a news flash. Read any advice column about how to keep the spark alive in your marriage...

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7 Dinge über die Ehe, die ich schon als Frischvermählte hätte wissen sollen

(0) Comments | Posted June 27, 2014 | 10:19 AM

Die meisten von uns heiraten in der Hoffnung auf Liebe und Glück für ein ganzes Leben, und wissen doch viel zu wenig, wie man das anstellt. Viele von uns glauben, alles zu haben, was man für eine dauerhafte Ehe braucht, weil wir uns lieben, weil wir gleiche Werte und miteinander...

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7 Things About Marriage I Wish I'd Known As A Newlywed

(42) Comments | Posted June 23, 2014 | 5:24 PM

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Most of us step into marriage hoping for a lifetime of love and happiness, knowing far too little about what might give us our best shot at getting there. Many of us assume that because we're in love, because we have common values...

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7 kleine Dinge, die glückliche Paare jeden Tag tun

(0) Comments | Posted June 16, 2014 | 3:18 PM

Im Leben geht es oft um die kleinen Dinge, oder? Um den Geruch von frischem Kaffee. Um den Vogel, der seine Körner aufpickt. Um die ersten Blumen im Frühling.

Die meisten von uns glauben, dass unser größtes Glück von den großen Ereignissen im Leben kommt. Davon, unseren Traumjob zu bekommen,...

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