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My Life as a Libyan-American Muslim Woman

Posted: 05/03/11 08:41 PM ET

The Arab revolutions of 2011, or "Arab Spring" as it is commonly called, not only challenged political systems and dictators, but people's beliefs, habits, faith and preconceived notions about everything, which set the gender debate on fire. As women took to the streets in protests in Tunisia, Egypt and Libya, they showed the world that they are involved in their country's affairs and convincingly reintroduced the idea of an Arab world where women take center stage as revolutionaries and decision makers.

I fled the violence in Libya at the end of February -- first to Malta, then the United Arab Emirates, where I attended "Insight Dubai," a women's leadership conference sponsored by Dubai Women's College. While there, I spoke about my experience as a Libyan woman and the discrimination, pride and confusion associated with that. In America, whenever I said I was from Libya, people automatically associated me with Gaddafi or his perverse procession of female bodyguards. I was surprised however, to find out just how little Arab women from the Gulf knew about Libyan women. The truth is, Gaddafi's regime made it impossible for any Libyan to form an identity outside it. It was refreshing to interact with women from around the world, who criticized male-oriented systems in their society and expressed their expectation in a future that includes women in the decision-making process of companies, think tanks and governments. At the conference we discussed sharia and women's issues in Islam and agreed that balancing religion and politics is essential in the Arab world.

The revolutions of Tunisia, Egypt, Yemen and Libya, and to an extent the rest of the Arab world, thrust women into the public sphere and supported their voices with megaphones. As a Libyan and Muslim woman, my voice is often drowned out by the Islamophobic rhetoric of the Christian right, the fanatical fatwas of the Islamic fundamentalists or the outrageous, mass-murdering propaganda of Gaddafi's regime. It's a miracle I'm still alive. Yet, over the tumultuous events of the past few months, I learned to come to terms with my identity. As a Muslim woman raised in a Judeo-Christian society, I can't forget the principles laid out by America's founding fathers, who, after much debate, pragmatically settled with a nation "under God" with an emphasis on free practice and the separation of church and state.

I'm a Zumba-dancing, unveiled, Muslim-American woman from Libya. I break a lot of stereotypes and question people's ideas of what a Muslim woman is. When I worked for Rep. Gabrielle Giffords in D.C. (an incredible woman who's resilience in politics and life inspires people of all faiths), I was struggling with what it means to be a Muslim in politics. I wrote about that struggle, which ultimately is a search for a home, and an identity in I Speak for Myself: American Woman on Being Muslim, published this week.

The search for my identity, for a home, became a lot more real as I met with Libyan refugees along the Tunisian border. I heard stories from families who's homes were shelled and destroyed by Gaddafi's forces. But the families I met with in the Rehmada Refugee camp, some 15.5 miles from the southern Tunisian-Libyan border of Dehiba, didn't greet me as a victims of war, but as fighters with resilience and strength despite what they went through. I was in awe of the Libyan women; their bravery matches the men they were forced to leave behind.

My mother, a Libyan immigrant who raised seven children often on her own (as my father lived between Libya and the U.S.) is a great example of resilience, repeated in each and every Libyan family. As we heard gunshots fired near our home in Tripoli, my mom wasn't afraid and understood why I wanted to join my brother in protest.

After I left Libya, I spent countless hours reading Libya news updates, searching through footage on YouTube and Facebook and tearing up at the eye-witness accounts of Libyan women's bravery retold on Twitter.

A Libyan woman from Zintan, who saw Gaddafi's rockets fall through her roof, told me she was not afraid of Gaddafi or his men. "They are cowards who shoot rockets into the homes of a people unarmed. My little daughter has more courage in her pinky than all of Gaddafi's men put together."

Her statement is echoed by both men and women in Libya, who fight together. Even Libyan men will not hesitate to tell you stories of how their women encouraged them to go out and fight, lest they should. Libya's Revolution is a story of a people, men, women, and even children, who refused to live under Gaddafi's oppression. Libya's revolution is a story of Muslim women resisting oppression, of Muslim women speaking out against violence, of Muslim women taking charge of the future of their country.

 
 
 

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The Arab revolutions of 2011, or "Arab Spring" as it is commonly called, not only challenged political systems and dictators, but people's beliefs, habits, faith and preconceived notions about everyth...
The Arab revolutions of 2011, or "Arab Spring" as it is commonly called, not only challenged political systems and dictators, but people's beliefs, habits, faith and preconceived notions about everyth...
 
 
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09:31 PM on 05/10/2011
I think we already heard from a Muslim woman who had to be spirited out of Libya by the French government. I think she pretty much speaks for the condition of Muslim women.0
04:10 PM on 05/07/2011
I commend you for speaking out.
Since this is the religion section, I am curious as to views on this issue:
Are we willing to acknowledge that even in texts supposedly directly inspired by God there are cultural elements that reflect the morality and scientific views of the time ? Put differently: in spite of them being inspired texts, not everything in the Bible and the Koran (and the Bhagavad Gita) is true. Not everything makes sense even.
If you share this view, I wish you strenght in dealing with the stiff and possibly violent opposition you'll encounter. If you don't, how can equality between man and woman ever be realised ?
Peace.
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Rachelvis
There is a difference between "your" and "you're".
12:31 PM on 05/05/2011
Just thought I would point out. "under God" was "pragmatically" added to the pledge in 1954, it was in no way put there by the founding fathers, as you implied.
04:56 PM on 05/04/2011
I am glade that you choose to right about muslim women ... PPl need to understand that all Muslim women are not as labled in the media... If you also look at other moderate muslim countries such as Turkey, Bangladesh name a few...women are very much involve in politics and are not afraid to raise their voice...good writing ...keep up !
03:43 PM on 05/04/2011
The author's story is inspiring and it gives hope that the new futures that are taking shape in Middle Eastern and North African countries can include social and political equality for women. I hope to see the women of Libya, Syria, Egypt, Tunisia, and Bahrain continue fighting for their rights and freedoms as citizens in their societies.
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02:39 PM on 05/04/2011
Where's the hijab?
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11:24 PM on 05/04/2011
Explain your question.
02:04 PM on 05/04/2011
I find one of the most beautiful and fascinating things about America is that we are a giant melting pot of Something-Americans. We're all individuals who come from different upbringings and cultural backgrounds yet united under the same red, white and blue umbrella. As Americans, we have the right to forge our own identities, whether it be Jewish-American, Korean-American, African-American, Muslim-American, Mexican-American, Christian-American, (or more-than-one-of-the-above-American), etc...Of course, one should not limit themselves to fit a label, but one could create it, explore it, define it or defy it. To me, that hyphen is a beautiful privilege. It allows us to understand ourselves and those around us. It exposes us to different cultures, ideas, knowledge and levels of understanding. As a human being, I feel blessed to be brought up in such a place where this is possible. I plan to take advantage of that and learn as much as possible about the different narratives within our nation. And I applaud Miss Tekbali for sharing hers with us. Embrace the hyphen :)
01:50 PM on 05/04/2011
So young, brilliant!!
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The eyes have it.
12:49 PM on 05/04/2011
It'd be nice if the United States and its people could rise above the stereotyping. I think the semi-acceptable nature of anti-muslim bigotry in this country is a glaring disservice to its values and ideals (and I am not talking about religion in the slightest when I discuss values, by the by) and that we need to learn that it is never acceptable; universal principle, the Categorical Imperative at work.

I think we need to, as a public, recognize that the spectrum of public opinion encompasses the whole gamut, just as it does within almost any other group. Perhaps we're too used to viewing things simply, and ignoring the nuances. That has certainly been the case of the last decade in the United States, where the political discourse has been accusatory, oversimplified and rather prone to finding scapegoats.

Hopefully, going forward, especially with a certain someone now buried at sea, we may be able to adjust our course for the better.
12:47 PM on 05/04/2011
If she was born in America, that would make her an American first, and not a hyphenated American. I don't know brand of Islam she's following, but aren't Muslims supposed to be following the life and behavior of their prophet Mohammed? How much of a Muslim is she? I am sure traditional Sunnis and Shiites will think of her as an apostate.
02:20 PM on 05/04/2011
As Muslims, we are not in the position to judge or measure another person's faith. Scrutinizing others goes against the teachings of the Prophet Mohammed.
09:13 AM on 05/07/2011
Both of your assumptions are wrong. Prophet Muhammad taught Muslims to be proud of their heritage. Associating as an American is by no means considered apostasy, by any stretch of the imagination.

Secondly, being American is not the only identifier of a person, as you can have young Americans, old Americans, employed Americans, unemployed Americans, Native Americans, African Americans, rich Americans, poor Americans, Christian Americans, Jewish Americans, Muslim Americans, agnostic Americans, etc. Adding a hyphen doesn't make someone less American.
12:54 AM on 05/09/2011
I wasn't assuming otherwise. I agree with your point.
12:43 PM on 05/04/2011
"As a Muslim woman raised in a Judeo-Christian society, I can't forget the principles laid out by America's founding fathers, who, after much debate, pragmatically settled with a nation "under God" with an emphasis on free practice and the separation of church and state."
 
Aren't you mixing up things.
 
1.There was no mention of 'under God'  by the founding fathers.
2. Ghaddafi is secular where as the rebels and the people of Eastern Libya are mostly radical Muslims. In fact, the rebel leader of the city of Dema declared Islamic Emirate in Libya. So much for your "separation of church and state' for Libya.  
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There is a difference between "your" and "you're".
12:32 PM on 05/05/2011
Aw man, I wrote that about the under God in a post before I read this. Oh well :)
12:24 PM on 05/04/2011
Isn't Benghazi the center of radical Islam? Do you really think that after the NATO forces defeat the Libyan government and install the rebels in place of Ghaddafi, Libyan women will have more power? I very much doubt that. 
 
Finally, you talk of Dubai women. Aren't they voluntarily conservative? We know lots of families in Dubai who were very secular before, but now, their women are religious conservatives even though their male members have remained secular.
08:24 AM on 05/04/2011
Im not mad you cahnged your mind I am actually happy you did about the Governement and Seif, like others who defected as soon as the revolution in Libya happened. All I want from you is to realize who ou are, not once in this article did you discuss what you were doing in Libya before the revolution. People who were with Qaddafi and his son before should stay quiet and do all the work they can to make a difference for Libya, not look for ways to promote themselves because now it is cool to be Libyan-American. And if you do choose to write about Libya talk about the actual Libyan women who are fighting for the cause and keep your own personal story out of it, because if you do decide to write about your story be sure to write the whole story including the pro-Qaddafi government part...

Long live Libya!!!
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The truth will set you free!
08:23 AM on 05/04/2011
Thank you for the insight into your life as a Muslim American women from Libya. It appears that ALL women share relatively the same experience no matter where they live on Earth. Patriarchy is the result of an imbalance in the natural order of life and human evolution. Men and women naturally compliment each other and the domninance of one over the other is the reason why there is so much strife,chaos and conflict in the world today. When people express only one side or the other of an issue (in this case,sex),their minds split,making them unconscious. Thus effectively causing blind spots in their consciousness. If we continue to be disunited as a species we are insuring our extinction. I for one would love to see our species unite and collectively address our survival issues thereby insuring our continuation as the dominant species on Earth. Peace.

You have been fanned.