Zachary Stockill
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Zachary Stockill is an award-winning researcher, writer, and educator. He writes about relationships, politics, pop culture, and travel for many print and online publications of various repute, including the Huffington Post, PolicyMic, PopMatters, and, among others. He has appeared on HuffPost Live and other programs as a guest contributor.

He is also the author of the bestselling guidebook, Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy: A Guide to Getting Over Your Partner’s Past and Finding Peace, and founder and lead writer at, the most visited site on the internet concerning retroactive jealousy.

Born and raised in Ontario, Canada, Zachary graduated with a Bachelor of Arts (Honours) in History from the University of Ottawa, a Master of Arts in Globalization Studies from McMaster University, and a Master of Arts in History from the University of British Columbia.

He has worked with human rights organizations in India and Canada, and is particularly interested in questions around relationships and sexuality, identity, social media, travel and the cultural politics of tourism.

He has been awarded several scholarships from the Government of Canada, the Government of Ontario, McMaster University, and the University of British Colombia for his research on tourism and social change in South Asia.

In addition to his studies in Canada, Zachary has also studied at the University of Pune and the Center for Studies in Social Sciences in Kolkata, India.

His hobbies include travel, meditation, making art, and writing about himself in the third person. He is a drummer, guitarist, and budding ukulelist (ukuleleist? ukuleleite?) who knows far more than any man should about the history of popular music. Zachary’s favourite Beatles record is the “White Album,” which should tell you almost anything else you might need or want to know.

You can follow me on Twitter @zfstockill, connect with me on Facebook by clicking here.

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Entries by Zachary Stockill

Despite the Shooting, We Must Keep Parliament Open to the Public

(3) Comments | Posted October 27, 2014 | 1:02 AM

When I was 18, I moved to Ottawa to begin my undergraduate studies. A couple of weeks into the semester I met an attractive fellow student unlike any woman I'd met before. I wasted little time in asking her out.

And so, on a crisp late-September evening, we took a...

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How I Learned to Party Through Pain

(1) Comments | Posted September 29, 2014 | 2:57 PM

In November of 2008 I spent the majority of my days sitting cross legged on the cold floor of a meditation hall in northern India.

I was living in the woods outside of a tiny Himalayan village called Dharamkot, surrounded by cedar trees and mountains and little else, attending...

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The 5 Types of Fans You See at Every Baseball Game

(1) Comments | Posted August 18, 2014 | 10:47 AM

We're approaching the end of August, and, like every year, that means the MLB season is starting to get interesting. Teams are jostling in the standings for playoff positions, and both the drama, and calibre of baseball is starting to increase. If you're interested, but mostly unfamiliar with the sport,...

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Learn How to Play Guitar by the End of the Week

(1) Comments | Posted June 18, 2014 | 11:35 AM

In 1962, a little-known Liverpool rock act called the Beatles auditioned for a recording contract with Decca Records, but were rejected on the grounds that "guitar groups were on the way out." Besides the fact that Decca turned down the greatest rock band of all time, this anecdote has become...

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What I Learned a Year After Publishing My First Book

(0) Comments | Posted March 20, 2014 | 4:44 PM

I can't believe it's already been one year.

A year ago I was sitting in front of my computer in Vancouver, Canada, putting the finishing touches on my first book, Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy: A Guide to Getting Over Your Partner's Past and Finding Peace, and preparing it for publication. I...

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On the Necessity of Giving Your Gift, and Living Your Truth

(0) Comments | Posted February 4, 2014 | 4:14 PM

What brings you the most joy and satisfaction? What do you do that gives you the most pleasure? What is your heart moved to give? What are your hands compelled to produce?

I believe that everyone has a unique gift, but I don't mean it in the bestowed-from-on-high sense of...

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The Most Important Lesson for Men Who Aspire to Greatness

(0) Comments | Posted November 8, 2013 | 3:16 PM

Lately I've been immersing myself in books and articles about entrepreneurship, startup companies and business development. Earlier this week I came across an article which was a real eye-opener for me, with major implications for my life going far beyond my business. In it, John Muldoon writes that...

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Review: The World According to Dick Cheney

(5) Comments | Posted March 27, 2013 | 3:22 PM

In the opening moments of the new Showtime documentary The World According to Dick Cheney, the former vice president confesses that he "doesn't spend a lot of time" thinking about his faults. These unsurprising words set the tone for the rest of our journey with Dick Cheney in...

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2012: The Year in R & B Music

(0) Comments | Posted December 12, 2012 | 3:43 PM

2012 was a very good year for R & B. While clearly drawing on the previous efforts of the genre's most famous sons (Marvin Gaye, Prince, etc.), a host of young artists have begun to open R & B up to a wide range of influences from rock, electronica and...

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"Just Look Busy!": On Life as a Background Actor

(1) Comments | Posted August 13, 2012 | 3:24 PM

If you are someone who schedules their life around something like House, Glee, or Grey's Anatomy, it is likely that you can conjure a mental image of your favorite television star on demand. Fortunately, Patrick Dempsey's rugged scruff and sexy jawline are permanently entrenched in your consciousness, as a result...

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Considering the Goat in Kashgar

(2) Comments | Posted July 12, 2012 | 11:54 AM

It had been almost a month before I began to consider the goat.

I was on my way to a local government office, mentally preparing for yet another certain quarrel with local visa officials when it caught my eye. Suddenly, parked on the side of the road in the back...

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One Last Word on Charlie Sheen

(0) Comments | Posted September 20, 2011 | 1:28 PM

Around six months ago, anyone within range of any form of communications technology was aware of the accelerated descent into the Heart of Darkness undertaken by actor Charlie Sheen; best known for his role as an alcoholic narcissist on CBS' "Half-Hour Assault On Your Cerebrum," alternatively referred to as Two...

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India: "No Indians Allowed"

(0) Comments | Posted May 27, 2011 | 3:16 PM

"No Indians allowed here," my (Indian) hotel-manager informed me when I first checked in. I said nothing, my surprise inhibiting my ability to respond. Later, after the necessary paperwork and passport submission, he repeated: "No Indians here." I could resist no longer. "Why?" I replied with an utter and complete...

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Kolkata: Summertime on Sudder St.

(2) Comments | Posted May 16, 2011 | 1:27 PM

The drug-dealing pimp I had tea with this morning was critical of my candid description of today's weather. "Bad language," he scoffed under his breath, and looked away disgusted. Although "hot as fuck" may have been a touch insensitive, it was no doubt apt. Though perhaps not too warm to...

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The Want for Privacy: Facebook's Assault on Friendship

(67) Comments | Posted May 5, 2011 | 3:23 AM

In a provocative deconstruction of the Patriot Act, Elaine Scarry theorizes about the implications of this involuntary dissolution of privacy on social interaction. As she writes in "Rule of Law, Misrule of Men," "When we say that democracy requires that the people's privacy by ensured, we do not...

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Nothing to ROFL About: On the Poverty of Our Electronic Vocabulary

(15) Comments | Posted April 11, 2011 | 1:35 PM

What was particularly provocative in comedian Louis CK's recent special Hilarious was his take on the incredible amount of exaggeration that pervades our everyday speech. Things are no longer "amusing" or "kind of funny;" everything becomes "hilarious." Events, situations, and people are no longer "good" or "fun;" everything becomes "awesome."...

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Between Bombay and Brooklyn: The Bollywood Remake Project

(1) Comments | Posted March 9, 2011 | 4:48 PM

"It is the story of a writer of lurid bestsellers who goes to India in search of new sensations..."

So begins Okayplayer: The Bollywood Remake. This extraordinary remix record - my early pick for the best of 2011 - delivers on its initial promise: the album packs a...

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Consuming Enlightenment: Jeremy Piven's India

(1) Comments | Posted February 11, 2011 | 10:17 AM

It is both an unfair and mundane truism that most travel shows are of spurious quality. With rare exceptions, the typical travel show host appears plastic, with an ironed-on smile and positive disposition that reeks of a corporate-sponsored inauthenticity. There are, naturally, some rare and notable exceptions.

Anthony Bourdain's...

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Hope in the Era of Obama: A Lesson From Egypt

(1) Comments | Posted February 10, 2011 | 7:48 PM

This past Thursday afternoon, as the television screen boasted stunning images of a people claiming -- nay, seizing -- agency in their political destiny, an equally stunning headline overtook the lower portion of the screen:

White House says situation in Egypt is "fluid."

One can only assume that the same...

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Oprah as Opiate: 'The Man With the Golden Voice' Reconsidered

(12) Comments | Posted January 7, 2011 | 11:07 AM

"Do you need proof that life in this country can change overnight?" Matt Lauer recently inquired. "Look no further than Ted Williams."

The tale of Ted Williams, with which you have likely attained some degree of familiarity -- homeless former substance abuser with a radio-ready voice...

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