03/28/2008 02:45 am ET Updated Nov 17, 2011

"You Are Responsible For Your Own Orgasm"

I WAS 17 WHEN my sexual education began.

"You are responsible for your own orgasm," my boyfriend told me. He was the guy I lost my virginity to, the guy I had my first orgasm with, and the guy whose words would one day become my mantra: I am responsible for my own orgasm. I believe that literally and figuratively. In bed, I play an active role in getting what I want. But I also take charge of getting what I want throughout my sexual life. That's why, along with a husband I adore, I have lovers.

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