06/21/2011 09:32 am ET Updated Aug 21, 2011

Can You Accept Your Dark Side? (VIDEO)

Everyone has secrets: qualities we're ashamed of, thing we wish we hadn't done, mistakes we've made. But if everyone we know has a dark side, why are we so afraid to accept our own follies and foibles?

Author Judith Wright believes that being able to accept our own shortcomings is integral to developing a healthy relationship with yourself and those around you. "You need to be able to claim those parts to become whole, in order to have a relationship with yourself. So you can find intimacy and feel loved," she says in this video.