02/06/2012 01:03 pm ET Updated Feb 06, 2012

Single Women Don't Need You Asking This Question

Last week, Jezebel posted an essay on the question that no unattached woman wants to hear: Why are you still single?

Sure, people try to frame this as a compliment (“but you’re so fun!”) or an expression of concern (as in, "surely there's been some bureaucratic error in the Central Matchmaking Office -- have you called them?"). No matter how they dress it up, though, the question tends to place the blame on the woman. Are you too busy? Are you not putting yourself out there? (Online dating is very popular--have you thought of that?) Are you not emotionally ready to meet someone?

Instead of focusing on the faults of the woman, let's look at what’s really going on. Perhaps you just didn't want to go out with the guy who called the waitress "babe." Or maybe the guy your friend set you up with was perfectly nice but the chemistry just wasn't there. Tweet your (very good) reasons @HuffPost Women with #whyimsingle. We'll set the record straight in a slideshow here.

SLIDESHOW: Readers Respond To #whyimsingle