03/07/2012 04:28 pm ET

Drug Addiction, Friend Dating Ex-Husband, And Mixed Signals In This Week's Friend Or Foe Advice Column

Dear Friend or Foe,

One of my dear friends—“Kelly”—is slated to be a bridesmaid in my July wedding. She’s been distant as of late, which I chalked up to a hectic work schedule. Then, on Valentine’s Day, she called to tell me that she's dating my ex-husband. Instead of flying off the handle, I calmly told her that I’d call her back when I was ready to talk about it. But I don’t know when that will be. Kelly saw all of the terrible things my ex-husband did to me three years ago, including abandoning our then 3-year-old and 18-month-old children for a woman 15 years our senior, not paying child support, and verbally abusing me.

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