03/14/2012 05:15 pm ET

Bethenny Frankel Marriage: 'Real Housewives' Star Talks Marital Challenges (VIDEO)

Bethenny Frankel, the former "Real Housewives of New York City" cast member and current star of "Bethenny Ever After", stopped by the "The Tonight Show With Jay Leno" Tuesday to to talk about her relationship with her husband, Jason Hoppy.

"[The] second year was way more difficult than the first," the reality TV star told Leno. "I was pregnant when I got married, so we were all excited about the baby and the wedding."

Since then, Frankel has realized that she isn't the best communicator: "I'm an initiator of arguments and he's the escalator," she said. "I'll light that fire, and then there's a big fire and I'm like, 'Oh my God, who put that fire there, what happened?'"

Still, Frankel says the pair is finally hitting their stride as a married couple. "The first two years are challenging, but now we're coming into a better rhythm. We got married older, so we are accepting each other now," she said. "We're together, we're committed, we work on it, and we're in love. And we're in it."

Frankel and Hoppy first met in a Manhattan nightclub in November 2008. Less than a year later, Hoppy proposed and the pair wed at the Four Seasons in New York City in March 2010. Frankel gave birth to their daughter, Bryn, in May 2010.