With the divorce rate for people 50 and over at its highest level on record, and the loss of partners that comes with aging, there are a lot of midlifers wading into the dating pool. That can bring up some tricky issues with the kids.
Consider this widow's post on the community board of the dating website eHarmony.com:
When I began dating, she wanted to know where and when I was going, and would call me on my cell phone to make sure things were ok.. Really -- I had to laugh at the whole switch-a-roo of this! When I was traveling out of the country last year ... she emailed me daily and worried a lot if I didn't email her back -- even though she knew I might not be in a wired part of the country! She even looked into me renting a cell phone in country while I was there. Along with her oldest brother, the two of them have been researching the men I've dated for more than a couple of casual dates.
What's the best way to break the news to the kids that you're dating again and keep them out of your hair? Dr. Terri Orbuch -- a.k.a. "The Love Doctor -- is a professor, therapist, relationship expert for OurTime.com, and author of “Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship (Sourcebooks, June 2012). Check out her top tips below: