Since Ms. B. entered her mid-40s, she says, sex has been more about smoke and mirrors than thunder and lightning. She is rarely if ever interested enough to initiate it with her partner of 10 years, and she does not reach climax during the act.
She wishes it were otherwise. "Sex just isn’t a priority anymore," said Ms. B., 45, a professor in New York who spoke on the condition that only her last initial be used. "Still, it would be nice not to feel sexually dead."