11/24/2012 01:10 pm ET

After the Affair

WHEN the news broke about the Petraeus affair, my first thought was: “Here we go again. Another married man caught sleeping with a younger woman.” My second thought had more personal resonance: “I wonder what will happen to his marriage?”

When I was in my early 20s I thought my morals and convictions were set in stone and unshakable. I had rules in place for so much of my life. When we are young and starting out, we’re more certain about how our marriage will play out: how we will raise our children, and how we’ll handle our husbands having an affair.

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