In the past I’ve covered the research regarding what you should look for in a marriage partner.
What do studies say about what you can do to improve your relationship?
Being bored with the marriage undermines closeness, which in turn reduces satisfaction, Orbuch said.
“It suggests that excitement in relationships facilitates or makes salient closeness, which in turn promotes satisfaction in the long term,” she said.
We spend a lot of time trying to reduce conflict but not enough time experiencing thrills. And the latter may be more important.