01/03/2013 04:43 pm ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

Iyanla Vanzant Covers ESSENCE Magazine, Shares 10 Ways To 'Claim Your Joy' This Year

While February newsstands are typically filled with magazines' musings on love, ESSENCE is tackling adoration of a different kind, prompting readers to find the joy within themselves.

To help them do it, the magazine tapped OWN Network's "Fix My Life" host Iyanla Vanzant for its cover feature, "Iyanla Says…Claim Your Joy Now!” in which she reveals 10 secrets to finding real and lasting happiness and the reason she will always have a reason to smile.

Here's are three of Vanzant's joy-channeling tips. Check out the rest in ESSENCE's February issue, which hits stands on January 11.

· Organize Your Life: “Order is the first law of heaven, and you have to have order to survive on Earth. Figure out what has to be done each day, each week, each year and develop a system to achieve it…”

· Strengthen Your Ties: “…What will support any relationship is clear, complete and conscious conversations when upsets or breakdowns occur. It wasn’t planned that the rebuilding of my relationship with Ms. Oprah Winfrey would be broadcast. However, it turned out that we demonstrated to the world and to women what is required to heal a relationship breakdown by being honest about what we felt and how we interpreted each other’s actions…”

· Perfect Saying No: “You have a right to say no. Most of us have very weak and flaccid ‘no’ muscles. We feel guilty for saying no. We get ostracized and challenged for saying no, so we forget it's our choice. Your no muscle has to be built up to get to a place where you can say, 'I don’t care if that’s what you want. I don’t want that, no.’"

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