01/23/2013 10:49 am ET

You Should Enjoy Being Single Before You Get Into A Relationship

I have a friend who is a serial monogamist. I love her to death and she knows this, but she does not feel comfortable with herself unless she’s in a calm, stable relationship with someone. And every time she says this to me I get upset and start to feel like the village harlot. It’s just a perspective on life I don’t really understand. I mean, shouldn’t you like being single before you sign-up for a relationship?

A few weeks ago my friend broke up with her boyfriend of several years all because he cheated on her with the girl they had a three-way with once, and the dude left my friend for the other girl. That’s some Judge Mathis drama right there. But I know it’s hard when you break up with someone you’ve been with for so many years because you get locked into a routine — a comfortable routine, but a cycle you don’t think will ever break. You’re almost never prepared for it to break when it does.

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