In this clip from an episode of "Oprah's Lifeclass," motivational speaker Tony Robbins says that self-awareness is one of the rarest of human commodities -- and that the one tool that can help you achieve self-awareness is... love.
"There's four kinds of love," he says. "And I want you from now on to decide, when you're interacting with those you love, which level of love you're going with."
Tony says that the four levels of love are: baby love (a.k.a. brat-like love), horse-trading love, real love, and spirit love. Watch the clip to find out more -- and to decide which one you ideally want to reach with the people in your lives. Adds Tony, "The more we judge other people and don't forgive them, the more we can't forgive ourselves."