03/27/2013 12:07 pm ET

No One ‘Has It All' -- Not Even Men -- Because Work Sucks. The End.

There was a crucial moment when I was newly pregnant where I had to make a choice whether to take a (better-paid) job that would have me still in clubs, reviewing rock shows three or four nights a week for an alt-weekly while gestating, or peel off to the more family-friendly track of writing about culture with virtually no after-hours commitments, but far fewer advancement/earning options. The choice was obvious at the time, but perhaps what's more interesting is that my husband wanted the exact same kind of more flexible job option for himself to be home with our daughter, only for him, it was much more difficult to find. In other words, we were both fucked, because work sucks.

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