05/28/2013 12:15 pm ET Updated Jul 28, 2013

It Happened To Me: I'm In A Happy Polyamorous Relationship


Today someone asked if I still loved Jon, since I was with Winston all day, and was talking about my upcoming vacation with Kai. It was the silliest question I’ve gotten recently, though definitely not the first time I’ve heard it.

Of course I still love my husband Jon. I also love my partner Kai, and my boyfriend Winston. They’re wonderful, and I couldn’t live without them. But people still wonder what my life is like with them.

I know, I know. It seems SO DIFFERENT you guys. But it’s really not. I go to work, and Winston often takes the metro in when he wants to visit. Jon comes home and the three of us cook dinner and clean up together. We watch TV, or just talk, or just hang out. I skype with Kai on a regular basis, and visit him often.

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