QUEER VOICES
06/29/2013 10:20 am ET Updated Feb 02, 2016

Why Don't Lesbians Hook Up Online?

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Ever since hookup websites (and subsequently apps) became the way gay men play, lesbians have been asking, "Where's our Grindr?" But perhaps the better question would be, do lesbians want to bang or just hang with friends? And if you build a women-seeking-women app, will they come?

Women have been saying they want to be able to hook up the way the guys do at least as far back as 2001, when Elizabeth Perlman complained on a website called The New Gay, "I certainly wouldn't mind competing with the gays to take back my right to be a slut if it meant being a normal person who collects vagina photos on my cell phone." The reality, however, is that while gay men quickly monopolize new technology to find the fastest way to get laid (remember those AOL chat rooms?), lesbians tend to use social media to be more, well, social. That means holding out for the first few dates anyway, in stark contrast to those gay men for whom "date" means "fuckfest this Friday."

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