08/21/2013 01:29 pm ET Updated Oct 21, 2013

Harry Had It Wrong: Men, Women, And Friendship

If you're a single woman with male friends, you've heard it a million times: "So, are you guys dating or what ... ?" I've gotten this question about Josh, my childhood bestie who's basically my brother. About George, the friend who dated so many of my friends that he and I were just never gonna go there. About Tim, my former co-worker with whom things were always simple and delightfully platonic. Then there are a handful of male friends with whom it hasn't always been so clear-cut, but we've settled comfortably into friendship without benefits anyway. It's rom-com gospel that "men and women cannot be friends because the sex part always get in the way." But in my own life, the purported wisdom of When Harry Met Sally has never really held true. Sexual tension has never been the chief barrier to befriending straight men.

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