In an upcoming episode of "Iyanla: Fix My Life," parents Traci and Andre ask spiritual life coach Iyanla Vanzant for her help in "fixing" their two adult children. They disapprove of their daughter Jazmin's plan to marry her boyfriend, a man they've banned several times from their house.
Parents Traci and Andre are so stressed and disappointed over the relationship, they say it's causing them serious health issues. In the above video, Traci explains why her daughter's engagement has caused overwhelming tension in the family.
She says Jazmin's boyfriend asked her father and brother for permission to marry her, and both said they thought it was too soon. "So for Christmas, he gave [Jazmin] that ring and he said, 'This would have been an engagement ring, but your dad and your brother said no,'" Traci says. "Well, that caused the first rift."
"Yeah, but isn't that the truth?" Iyanla interjects.
"But he didn't have to tell her that," Traci says. "Just tell her it's a promise ring."
"No," Iyanla says to Traci and Andre. "Tell the truth -- which is something you two are not doing. You're not telling the truth."
After taking a deep breath, Traci continues with her story. "He waited six weeks, and on Valentine's Day they went to dinner, and he proposed," she says. Traci says her husband, Andre, "almost had a coronary," and called him "disobedient."
Iyanla, visibly upset, stands up from her chair. "Y'all are just control freaks and we've just got to get that clear," she says. "You're control freaks."