09/25/2013 03:17 pm ET

Motivational Speaker Gerald Rogers: What You Can Learn From My Divorce (VIDEO)

Blindsided by his wife's desire to get divorced, Gerald Rogers joined HuffPost Live's Nancy Redd to share his story and advice to divorcees.

"I was married for about 16 years to an amazing, remarkable woman. I think for most of our marriage, I was under the illusion that everything was perfect. I felt like I was a good husband," Rogers said. "What I didn't realize was how much of a mask I was living under and how I really didn't understand how to fill her deepest needs as a woman. And so it was about a year ago that she first let me know she wanted a divorce."

When the motivational speaker and chief visionary behind Live Big took an introspective approach to making sense of his divorce, he wrote a Facebook post called "advice I wish I would have had." And he had no idea what kind of response he would receive -- over 129,000 shares and 21,000 likes.

"When the divorce was finalized about two months ago, it was one o' clock in the morning the night after the divorce, and I said, 'what lessons did I learn? What am I going to do different, and how did I create this?'" Rogers told Redd. "In the end, my core belief is the only way we have power in our life is by taking accountability for our actions. There's no power in being a victim."

Responding to the viral impact his advice had, Rogers said, "When I wrote that post, it was advice for myself. And when I shared it and it went viral ... if anything it just reminded me how connected we are in this experience of pain around relationships and how we all want to create something better."

To hear more on this discussion, watch the full segment HERE.



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