The question of who picks up the check — or buys the groceries, or the gas — is one that can vex hetero romance. Is a man unmanned by a woman provider? Do women want men who can bring home the bacon? Such problems are thrown into high relief on a first date, when no one knows anything about one another and everyone wants to look good.
For some, the solution here might seem obvious. Like: “Talk about it.” Or: “Compromise.” Or: “Feel secure enough to reject prescribed gender roles when it suits you and your partner.”