11/22/2013 02:37 pm ET

A Military Wife No More - NYTimes.com

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Today I got divorced.

A drawn-out separation and a year in and out of marriage counseling that included three different therapists didn’t change the ultimate truth: My husband of 13 years and I are better off not being married anymore.

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