01/02/2014 10:04 am ET Updated Jan 23, 2014

Greg Behrendt And Amiira Ruotola Explain How To Attract The Right Person (VIDEO)

As the author of the popular bestseller He's Just Not That Into You, Greg Behrendt has had a lot to say about dating and relationships. Now, he's dishing out more love lessons that he and his wife Amiira Ruotola say single women should keep in mind when looking for Mr. Right.

On an upcoming episode of "Oprah's Lifeclass," Behrendt and Ruotola break down why women aren't attracting the right mates. The answer? You attract what you are.

"Water seeks its own level," Ruotola explains. "If your bar is low and if you only take on fixer-uppers, that's what you're going to get."

The lesson, the couple says, is to recognize what you're attracting and consciously repel that.

"And by the way," Behrendt says, "everybody pretty much ends up being a loser until the one that isn't."

In the video, Behrendt also shares his past dating experience as a single, 32-year-old man who wasn't meeting the right women -- including the simple perspective change he made that seemed to bring Ruotola into his life just one month later.

"Oprah's Lifeclass" with Ruotola and Behrendt airs Friday, Jan. 3, at 10 p.m. ET on OWN.



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