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01/10/2014 12:23 pm ET Updated Feb 02, 2016

Am I Still Gay If The Man I'm Attracted To Is Trans?

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Hey JT,

I have a simple question that I’m sure has a complex answer. I’m a gay man, and I just started volunteering at a LGBT community center in, well, let’s just call it a red state. Or redNECK state would probably be more appropriate, but that’s neither here nor there. Anyway, I started volunteering here because you’ve mentioned in the past that volunteering is a good way to meet local gay people, and you were right!

But something happened that I didn’t think ever would. I’ve become very attracted to, and went on a few dates with, a gay transgender man. I didn’t know he was trans at first, just that he was the hottest guy at the center. He was really assertive in asking me out, and I was so surprised because I thought he was so hot and I’m just average looking.

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