I’ve been in and out of 12-step recovery programs (like Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous) for almost 20 years. I’ve had many periods of sobriety, from a paltry four months to a lengthy seven years (and everything in between). During the past two decades, I’ve dated both men in recovery and men who weren’t alcoholics (called “normies” by us in the program).
I’m currently single again, a sober divorcée in the strange world of online dating. It’s a new and terrifying experience. How do you allude to your past (and present) situations without lying or scaring off a potential match? The old “I’ve wrestled with my demons and won” line? “I’ve explored all the vices”? How about a simple, “I’m a pretty hot colossal f**k up”?