Try seeing things differently, and your whole day can be tons better. Family therapist Jude Bijou believes this so much that she’s written a book called Attitude Reconstruction. This works especially when you’re dealing with your kids–what if their most annoying behaviors were good for them? Well, they are! According to Bijou: “Kids test parents’ patience all the time. They whine, bargain, cry, mope and dawdle. They yell and scream and make themselves the center of attention. Sometimes they dig their heels in and simply refuse to budge.