03/11/2014 09:51 am ET

I Shouldn't Need An Excuse To Be A Virgin

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A few months ago, my friends went around the table talking about the most bizarre places they’ve had sex. When was my turn, their jaws dropped at my response. Then someone made a soft, “Awww,” -- the kind you give a baby after she lets out a burp. It was the first time I admitted to a group of feminists that I was a virgin -- something I’d been ashamed of for a while.

I’m not religious, I don’t have a fear of sex, and I have an awesome boyfriend of 2 years who would be at my doorstep in seconds with a box of condoms if I made that call. On top of all that, I occasionally write for a sex-positive site called Slutist. But despite these factors, I am a 22-year-old virgin.

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