Women, lean in! Women, negotiate! Women, step up to the plate! Women ask for what you want! The worst they could say is "no"! Great advice, except for when it's the worst advice; for one female academic, the worst they could — and did — say was "actually, never mind. We don't want to hire you now that we know what you want."
The woman, known only as "W" on the higher education blogs writing about the incident, was offered a tenure-track job at a small liberal arts school in upstate New York called Nazareth College.