WOMEN
03/17/2014 09:39 am ET Updated Mar 17, 2014

Being The 'Other Woman' ... Even When You're Not

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My guilt stemmed from having broken the woman code, and in this way: a man leaving his girlfriend and then suddenly marrying somebody else (me).

My guilt stemmed from having broken the woman code, and in this way: a man leaving his girlfriend and then suddenly marrying somebody else (me).

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In my twenties, after a series of serious relationships that didn’t work out, I wrote out a meticulous list of the qualities I would need in a partner. I told myself I would not enter another relationship unless the person met every single one of the qualifications on the list. Some examples:

-He is intellectual and enjoys a lively, intense conversation
-He enjoys the art of argument and debate
-Side-splitting laughter is a must!

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