04/28/2014 02:55 pm ET Updated Apr 29, 2014

Donald Sterling's Wife, Shelly, Can't Decide If Her Estranged Husband Is Racist Or Not

Some of life's more important questions require careful deliberation.

For Shelly Sterling, the estranged wife of embattled Los Angeles Clippers owner Donald Sterling, one of those questions is, "What should I do about my husband, who may be an overt racist?"

So far, judging by what she's said in public since a recording emerged in which a man, possibly Sterling, can be heard going off on a racist rant, her answer has been to both denounce him as "despicable," and also to defend him outright.

"Our family is devastated by the racist comments made by my estranged husband. My children and I do not share these despicable views or prejudices," Shelly told TMZ in a statement Sunday. "We will not let one man’s small-mindedness poison the spirit of the fans and accomplishments of the team in the city we love. We are doing everything in our power to stand by and support our Clippers team."

She attended the Clippers playoff game Sunday dressed entirely in black, perhaps in support of players who have taken to wearing black socks and armbands in protest.

Hours later, however, Shelly and Donald emerged from a restaurant together, and she loudly defended him to members of the press. "People want to know, Mr. Sterling. Are you a racist?" asked a photographer. Donald responded with silence, while Shelly said, "Of course [he's not racist]," and "It's not true!"

TMZ obtained a video of the encounter and published it online Monday.