05/09/2014 10:16 am ET Updated May 09, 2014

This Mother's Day I Will Not See My Mom Because I Divorced Her

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My mom drinks. My mom favors my sisters over me. My mom enabled my father as he assaulted and cheated and defrauded his way through life until he died under extreme poverty in his native African country.

People tell me to forgive. Many parents drink and emotionally abuse their kids. You’re not entitled to a childhood that Dr. Spock would have approved of, they say. You’re resilient. Bounce back.

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