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07/01/2014 07:25 pm ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

9 Things Celebs Can Teach Us About Heartbreak

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When it comes to dealing with a breakup, celebs are just like us. Sure, they're rich and beloved by millions of Twitter followers, but at the end of the day, they deal with heartbreak the same way we do: crying into a bowl of ice cream, blaring sad, sad music and struggling to put on non-yoga pants.

Below, nine celebrities share the wisdom they've learned from the roughest of post-breakup days.

1. It's true what they say; getting over the heartbreak doesn't happen overnight.

"When I was first going through my separation, someone said to me, 'It will take you half as long as you were in the relationship before you'll feel better.' And I wanted to knock them out cold across the table. Because, of course, I was in agony. And the last thing I wanted to think was that I was going to stay that way for a long time. But interestingly enough, it is over four years later -- we were together eight years -- and I finally feel like, cool. I feel better." -Uma Thurman

2. Know that it's going to feel awful.

"I was crawling on the floor. I remember throwing up. I remember being on the floor... I have never felt anything quite like that. It was so visceral. It's like someone has killed you and you have to live through it and watch it happen. It was awful." -Emma Stone

3. Give yourself time to grieve, but don't overdo it.

"You can allow yourself 72 hours of wallowing time. Then you've got to get into the gym, stop eating the ice cream and move on." -Jennifer Love Hewitt

4. While you're single, focus on loving yourself a little more.

"I think I've finally learned the biggest lesson of all. You've got to love yourself first. You've got to be OK on your own before you're OK with someone else. You've got to value yourself and know that you're worth everything. And until you value yourself enough and love yourself enough to know that, you can't really have a healthy relationship." -Jennifer Lopez

5. Get some shut eye.

"Chances are you weren’t sleeping soundly when the news of your breakup first broke. I know that I get particularly restless when I’m stressed about something or going through a tough time. Make sure you are logging in enough hours with your pillow by taking the natural supplement Melatonin, drinking sleepy time tea, or even eating sleep-inducing foods. Your red, puffy eyes will not look any better with dark bags underneath, and not sleeping will make the days ahead even more difficult than they already are. Plus, sleeping will give your mind rest from all the overthinking it has been doing and it will give you clarity about what has happened with your relationship." -Lauren Conrad

6. Realize you'll be stronger for surviving heartbreak.

"You don't want to feel that when a marriage ends, your life is over. You can survive anything. Compared to what other people are surviving out there in the world, this is not so bad, in the grand scheme of things ... But s--- happens. You joke and say, 'What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.'" -Jennifer Aniston

7. Own up to the part you played in the breakup.

"You see a lot of people play this blame game. Blame, blame, blame. You know? And it's a really easy thing to do, and I'm certainly guilty of it. [You have to] look at yourself and go, 'What part of this do I need to own? Which part of this is my responsibility?' And that's the painful work that you have to go through to hopefully get some real life knowledge out of it." -Reese Witherspoon

8. Use the past relationship to map out what you want and don't want in your next relationship.

"A lot of therapy has happened and a lot of understanding and growth. Sometimes you have to go through all this s--t to get your grips on life and figure out what the next boundaries in your love life are going to be. You have to go through the mud in order to find that peaceful place. In the long run, it was necessary for me to have more of a teammate." -Katy Perry

9. Don't push new love away.

"I think the thing that I have learned is that a bad love experience is no reason to fear a new love experience. But you have to be very honest at every single stage with the person about how you've been hurt, and hopefully they will be supportive about whatever it is that you have to go through...Everybody has bad relationships and, at the end of the day, they are just a great way to set yourself up for a good relationship." -Anne Hathaway

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