If you think bisexuality is a gateway to being gay, or assume someone who identifies as bi is indecisive or lying to themselves, just stop. Stop right there.
In a video posted to YouTube July 7, online personality R.J. Aguiar provides a comprehensive, yet hilarious, explanation of what it means to be bisexual. Hopefully his spot-on explanation puts to rest the debate over bisexuality.
"First off, bisexuality exists," Aguiar says in response to a reader's doubts about his sexuality.
"These people [who ask narrow-minded questions about bisexuality] are the ones who like to think in binaries," he goes on to explain. "When you're little, binaries are all right because they are your first stepping stone to understanding how the world works."
Eventually, he adds, one should realize the world doesn't consist entirely of binaries like night and day, big and small, short and tall. There is a spectrum of times between night and day, just as there is a spectrum of sexualities between gay and straight, he says.
One of the most important takeaways from this video message, however, is that sexual identification is a personal matter that does not require justification or verification from others.
"It's your job to go after what you want and what makes you happy," says Aguiar. "It's not your job to always be explaining yourself to other people. Especially when it comes to stuff that really isn't any of their business to begin with."
Amen to that.