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09/10/2014 11:48 am ET Updated Feb 02, 2016

3 Great Dating Tips Every Single Lesbian Should Follow

By Mary Malia for YourTango.com

Ladies, we're going to give it to you straight. After coming out, one of the reasons why it's sometimes hard for us to find love — or jump back into the dating field, for that matter — is because we end up getting in our own way. It makes sense that we're so caught up in figuring out the protocol for asking a woman that we miss out on a lot of opportunities. It's okay to be nervous about how to approach that girl that we ran into at the bookstore or on line at the coffee shop; we just have to remember that the only way that anything can happen is if we put ourselves out there. That being said, are there any dating rules that we can follow to make playing the field easier?

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When dating expert Mary Malia talks about ways to get out of our comfort zone and find love, she couldn't be more spot on. We don't need "gaydar" to crack the code of whether or not a woman is interested; we just have to get up and ask her! And if she ends up saying that she doesn't feel the same, we shouldn't take it so hard. Just brush it off and smile because the more you ask, there'll come a day when you get to that "Yes"!

This content originally appeared on YourTango.com as: "3 Foolproof Dating Tips Lesbians Should Follow"

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