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09/15/2014 11:44 am ET Updated Sep 15, 2014

How To Make A Relationship Work When She's The Breadwinner

Money affects the power dynamics of any relationship, but how does that change when the woman is the breadwinner?

Author Farnoosh Torabi researched this complicated phenomenon and surveyed more than 1,000 women to understand how they dealt with their earnings in their own relationships. In an interview with HuffPost Live's Caitlyn Becker, she discussed her findings, which she compiled in her book, When She Earns More.

“One of the sort of tricky things that I found out was she assumes a lot of the responsibility in the relationship, simply because she makes more, when it comes to finances,” Torabi said. “She assumes that she has to do the taxes, she assumes that she has to manage the retirement account. She assumes that she has to delegate all the money. And that's a lot to take on.”

But as Torabi explained, the breadwinner shouldn’t feel obligated to take on this extra burden.

“My advice would be whoever is the higher earning spouse ... don’t necessarily think that that means power for you or that means that you have to take on more responsibility than you’re willing to take on,” she said. “Enlist your partner to help you take on those critical decisions.”

Watch the full HuffPost Live conversation about money and relationships here.

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